You're all a bunch of sexual active, attractive people, I'm sure you've picked up a litany of tricks and moves that I can steal and pretend I made up. That way, next time I have sex, it'll be like she's fucking an entire group of internet strangers, which, if you'd ever met the girls I sleep with, is a huge possibility anyway. I don't think this thread has to be too narrow, but we should probably steer away from a bunch of bickering about shit that doesn't really matter. Every piece of advice would obviously be based on the poster's own experience, and you have to determine whether it's worth following or not: we don't need a bunch of "well, I actually hate having my balls played with, so there!". Unless something is egregiously wrong, like using hot sauce as lubricant or fucking Hot, Saucy, Lutherans. Where was I? Oh right. Focus:Give us them sexy tips. I'll start with one of my own: Most dirty talk sounds silly or obvious to me, but the idea of communicating and murmuring into somebody's ear is hot. So I tend during foreplay, to try to continue an otherwise innocuous conversation while my hands and mouth roam -- this has the added benefit of correlating a mundane topic with sexytimes. It's great fun to go to a dinner party and watch all the guests wondering why your partner blushes any time anybody discusses the debt ceiling.* *Note that this is more awkward if you have been recently fucking Ben Bernake.
I can see it now... Her: "Wow, where did you learn how to do that?" Him: "On an internet message board." Her: ... Him: ... Her: <running>
Can't run tied to a radiator. Gorilla sex. Throw into it like a workout. She'll love it and tell all her friends... exponential growth.
Dear Internet, I may get a chance to talk to a real girl this weekend. I've heard that sometimes they will let you touch them. What do I do if she wants me to put MY thing in HER thing. I've never done it before. Does it hurt? Will babies come out of her? Please help. Terrified at TiB Dear Terrified, There is nothing to be nervous about. Millions of boy people put their things in girl people's things every day, sometimes twice. And sometimes boys put their things in other boys, and girls put random things in other girls, and more than one boy puts their things in more than one girl at the same time, and sometimes boys put their things in inanimate objects that can't protest, and if the boys are in Germany, farm animals may be involved . . . . . . it's complicated. Just do whatever it is you saw that donkey-dicked fellow do to Jenna Haze in "The Cockvengers" and you'll be fine. The Internet P.S. Take pictures and send them to us.
Focus:My thing no matter what if time allows is after making out and all of that start kissing (nibbling/biting) the girl from head (down the arms) to toe, very slowly, avoiding the goodies starting with her on her stomach, then on her back where I then engage the goodies and lead into oral. I do it more because I'm weird and I picture the girls I'm with as desserts I'm eating, but according to them I've heard them say it was relaxing, got them out of their head, and made them feel wanted. I'd say the approach is pretty universal because it's been a good start for girls who wanted to continue on gentle, slow and even the ones that wanted to ramp up to spanking, choking, and general rougheness.
Also, just like any and all sports, follow through her orgasms. Whatever you're doing, if she starts coming, don't stop until she lets out that final sigh completely is done. I've run into girls that just keep coming and coming, but didn't know it because the guy would stop and change positions.
I don't understand how some people can be so clueless about a woman's body language when someone is eating her out, but apparently it needs explaining. If her hands are more to the front of your forehead/head, and her ass is firmly against the mattress/couch/floor, you're doing it wrong, and she's trying to limit contact. Too hard cowboy, ease up. If her hands are holding the side or toward the back of your head firmly and her hips are really pushing up to your face, you're almost doing it right, but she wants it harder. Sounds kinda obvious, doesn't it?
I dont understand why some people wouldn't just speak the fuck up. Why do we have to read tea leaves and interpret smoke signals? I'm trying to bring you some pleasure, not track a wounded animal in the desert. This isn't community service, let's get on track. Why play guessing games? I dont give a shit if youre shouting instructions like a Teamster trying to guide somebody into a loading dock, whatever it takes to get the job done.
Aw, man, I totally misunderstood that suggestion to "play with kitties down at the shelter", didn't I. Some people aren't great at communicating verbally, I suppose. And other feels like it takes them out of the moment, which can be unfortunate, I agree. It's nice when somebody is able to succinctly guide you without hurting your feelings. Focus: If you find yourself fingering your lady in the same way all the time (two fingers curled up, etc.), try switching it up every so often. I heard about a two handed technique, where the backs of your hands are resting flat against each other, and you curl the index fingers in opposite directions. I've tried it, and while it's not always a go-to 100% of the time move, it can be a nice way to switch things up: it stimulates the g-spot and the perineal floor at the same time, leaves your mouth free for clit stimulation, and is nearly impossible to replicate alone or with a toy.
There has to be some middle ground to hoping somebody picks up on what angle your hips are at or where exactly you placed your hands are and the sexual equivalent of reading a recipe over the phone to somebody. If "MMM...a little to the left" or "harder" or "no so hard" hurt your feelings, than you deserve the reputation of now knowing what you're doing. Id rather be told right then and there than have her go complain about it to her friends after.
I can see how giving directions could make someone feel like they're ruining the moment. I like talking about preferences before we get down to anything. Then, yes, please tell me if something should be slower, harder, to the left, whatever. Pro Tip: I hear that the gentlemen like it when you give a BJ. Word on the street.
And, do it with (or having just finished) a Halls cough drop. And, don't just suck the thing, grab the shaft with your hand and add a little rotation. And swallow.
Patience is a virtue. If I had a "signature move" it would probably be teasing a girl to the point where she's so frustrated she's legitimately angry. Works even better if you tie her wrists to the headboard. Use a light touch with your fingers, lips and tongue on her thighs, the crease of her hips and her stomach, and then occasionally flick her clit with your tongue just to mess with her and go back to teasing. The point is to push her further than she would ever have the self discipline to go herself, which then provides a huge payoff.
And for men like you, who can handle specific verbal instruction, I'd like to have a parade. I LOVE that. Not every guy is so secure. And, sometimes there's a ball gag in my mouth.
I was going to say something like this. And add, know the person you're dealing with. Some chicks have a hard time getting back to that point, so you might as well just keep going, others can handle more teasing. This works for guys, too. If you really want to make your dude babble, bring him to the edge a few times to the point where he's straining as hard as possibly can to cum. When you finally do let him, not only will it be a glorious surprise, he'll be investing so much energy of his own into it that it'll be that much more intense. Specific toy tip: Spoiler Good as a starter-ish toy -- it's not very big, and it's very easy to use together. I've had fun with mine, and it wasn't too pricy at all.
I'd have to agree with this. The body language when you are going down on a girl is pretty easy to interpret. I've been with one girl who basically needed me to grind my mouth against her to get off and another who I had to go very very lightly otherwise it started to hurt. There definitely isn't a universal way to eat a girl out. Tips: While going down on girl, if you aren't already fingering her, right as she is about to orgasm take your thumb and lightly rub just the opening of her vagina. Don't insert, just rub the outside. I've had more than one girl ask me what the fuck I did because their orgasm was 10x as intense when doing this. If the girl has her legs on my shoulders, I'll sometimes move them both to one side and have her cross them. The angle switches and most of the people I've been with seem to enjoy it. Almost universally in this position as well I'll rub her clit and lean farther back. I know a lot of guys lean forward so they can go deeper, but leaning back you rub against her g-spot harder and have a much easier time being able to stimulate her clit.
I like to simply roll over and gently nudge their vagina with my chair. Then I'll wink and say, "Hey baby, ready to roll?" Works every time.