I'm just sleep depriving my kid for our 10 hour drive tomorrow. Wake her at 4 am, throw her in the car seat, she'll sleep at least 5 of the 10 hours. The rest of the drive is what Dora DVDs and in car DVD players were made for. I'm just eager to get there and relax. I'm basically going to pass my kid off on my in-laws and wife the entire vacation and drink myself stupid every day. They plan to spend almost every day on the boat, but I get motion sick from some movies, let alone a rocking boat. Fuck that. I'll puke after 3 minutes (and have puked that quickly in the past on boats). They can go on the boat and go nuts. I'll hang back and sleep or read or catch up on some mobile games (I hope to beat Final Fantasy VI on my phone by the end of the vacation). The drive/flight is the worst part of any vacation, and that is tomorrow. I am dreading it.
So everyone of my friends is going to hell then. Why is it, as soon as a guy gets a girlfriend, all the sudden he stops being friends with you? It happens so consistently it makes me wonder if they're just assholes or if its some sort of natural phenomenon.
I'm no bastion of perfect relationships, but NEVER seeing your friends is unhealthy. All of my male friends in relationships I see all the time so I have no qualms in that department. It's the female friends that have jealous boyfriends. Just to make myself clear I'm not vacuous enough to think I'm that awesome.
Because you aren't the one sucking his dick. Men are simple creatures. Either learn how to keep his belly full and balls empty, or accept the fact that they're moving on to the next phase of their life.
Fair enough, I really don't have any significant issue with it. Just so long as they make the games I'm happy. If their SO doesn't allow them to skate then I start to wonder if they have a healthy supportive relationship. Which of course is non of my business but it sucks when you only have one sub for a 45 minute stop time game. Which of course wouldn't be an issue if we had enough skaters but you really need everyone to show up who can when you're thin.
I've had two female friends straight up tell me they couldn't hang out because of jealous boyfriends. In any event whether it is just petty jealousy or legitimately moving onto a next phase it still sucks not hanging out with someone who's company you legitimately enjoy.
Agreed. It sucks that it happens (just wait until they have kids), but it's not hard to understand why it happens.
So you're telling me if I don't want friends all I have to do is get involved in a significant relationship? All sarcasm aside, I wish my friends the best, but being the third wheel always sucks no matter who you are.
I used to think my buddies wives wouldn't let them hang out because I was a drunk asshole who they hated, I never got it. Turns out when you are married and have kids your life takes on a different direction, imagine that.
My two biggest friend's I drank/hung out with the most are both in relationships. What drives me nuts is when they don't answer their phone or text on the weekends. A short text would suffice, "hanging with girl tonight peace." I give them one text and two calls and figure they stuck with their girls. They aren't in that entering the next phase of their life phase as they both cheat on their girls the instant they can. It's what happened when your average schlubs don't get to sow their wild oats in there late teens-mid twenties.
I strongly agree with that. If I send someone a text, I know they saw it at some point. Be a decent person and get back to me with whichever reason you have for not being able to hang out. Ignoring the text is just rude and a bit disrespectful. I get it, your past hanging with the boys, thats fine, but out and out ignoring texts from your old friends is an asshole move. I know this from my own experience. If I wait a while to reply back, its most likely because I'm being the asshole and put that person low on my priority list.
Out of the four guys I've hung out with the most in the past five to ten years, one is married, two are in long term relationships, and one is an angry, single boozer. I myself just hit four years with my GF. Some combination of our group hangs out each weekend, and I never have problems getting a response via text or phone call out of any of them if they're busy. Just got back from the pub on a Sunday night with one of them (one is out of town, another is in Hawaii on a taxpayer funded jaunt with the Army, and the other was out with his GF). Am I just lucky, or do you guys have whipped friends?
I really appreciate all the volunteers this weekend. Truly. There's close to 300 I'm organizing. So it really makes my job easier everyone that helps. But if we're working in close quarters, can you please wear deodorant? Especially since I've had to lean over your shoulder about 40 times this morning for scoring issues? And don't offer your seat to me if it's wet when you get up. I realize you can't help your body's sweating, but we all saw it was wet when you graciously offered it to me. and I didn't want to be rude, so I sat on the edge, while thinking if I moved back just a little, I'd be wiping up your ass sweat. But I do appreciate your help. Just get off your phone.
Just going to say that when serious relationships form, obviously time with the guys gets limited. But yes, ignoring texts is disrespectful. However, I dated a girl for 4 years and she gradually became controlling and I never noticed until I had committed for a long time. She said I was rude if I replied to texts during a date, so I often unintentionally ignored friends all the time. By the time you're done eating, going to the movies and fucking you forget to tell your friends you're busy. And if the manipulation is implemented gradually, you don't realize you've been a douche (which I had been). Not to mention it's not easy to admit that you've been a douche. With all this I just want you to remember to give your friends leeway when it comes to women. And if you see the signs that she's a total bitch, find a way to explain it to your friend with causing a fight.
Today I'm off. I didn't have caffeine today and the headaches are debilitating. I already took one nap and feel like I need to crash for another one. I WILL WIN THIS. CAFFEINE WILL NOT HAVE THE LAST LAUGH. I love coffee so very much but this is ridiculous. I might need to switch to decaf just to avoid future withdrawal symptoms. Fuck I feel terrible.
You need to have the coffee. No one should have to live like this. Coffee is a perfectly ok addiction. Just get the French press and drink coffee the way the lord intended. With a beautiful blueish sheen of unfiltered goodness across the top. A dab of agave syrup. A little cream if you'd like. Let the goodness coarse through your veins. Chase that dragon.
I've been doing it with a moka pot these days and it is delicious. BUT NOT TODAY, JUNIOR. I love the taste of coffee but sometimes I just don't feel like any. It's stupid that I have to drink some to feel not shitty. Fucking caffeine.
There's something kind of cathartic about fixing shit up around the house. Even though I'm only renting my current place for a year or so, it's cheap enough that I don't mind dumping some time and money into the place to get it the way I want it. To wit, this afternoon I started some basic maintenance (re-caulking) on the main shower stall that seemed to have some leaking seams, and ended up ripping the whole thing right out. Turns out there was some rather serious water damage and rot to some sub-flooring (no wonder the floor felt a bit spongy), so after o̶n̶e̶ t̶w̶o̶ three trips to Home Depot I had the materials I needed to do some minor fix-up work. Finished it off with some vapour barrier, some Tuck Tape, and a whack of silicone, and it's all good now. Cost me less than $100 in pieces-parts, and a few hours of work, but it's all good. Just reinforces my belief that if you want to feel good about yourself, build something. Finishing the night with some red wine, a nice bbq, and some hand-made gelato from a cool little Italian coffee shop place I found near me.