Haha Rob, Revenge. You're both wrong. The answer is pretty clearly both (plus, you pretty much have to have those both of those strokes in your bag of tricks). For men, IN MY OPINION, you should also have a basic missionary game, a regular doggy game, and a sense of how to go with the fucking flow when you're being ridden. Unless you're married to someone who likes something particular. But being able to switch up sensations is crucial. NO, YOU'RE DRUNK.
Like everything in the sack, it comes down the girl. I've had girls where that is their favorite position but current GF doesn't like it at all. Current GF also doesn't like doggy style. Says it hurts too much. It must be my monstrously sized average white guy penis.
I gotta be honest, I didn't care at all for that position the few times I tried it, either. It's awkward and requires far too much work. If you're looking for something rough and sweaty, there are easier ways to go about it.
Going with the flow when you're being ridden is essential. Let me do the work because seriously...if I'm on top...I got this.
Height is huge, and -- this always bears mentioning, I think -- vaginas are sloped different and expand to different lengths, so the perfect stroke is going to be a work in progress. Rob, have you tried spreading your legs more in that position? It can give you a different sort of leverage and prevent the awkwardness. Positions are made to be tweaked. You can also try grabbing her ass and pulling it towards you while you're on your knees, so the thrust is more foward/upward and not quite as deep and downward. Here, let's have sex sometime and we can figure this out.
To me, it's just a less-intimate version of the missionary position (and intimacy is the main draw to missionary). Also, I'm partial to a woman's legs being wrapped around me, instead of being propped up on my shoulders. At that point, it becomes mutually awkward. See ya at the NYC meet! Pics or it doesn't count.
I mean, missionary is good for intimacy, but it has drawbacks -- lack of visual, relatively stunted range of penetration angles, relative one-sidedness. It's also tough to really control the pace to the level I'd like without some modification. (Hence why it's so important to be able to switch it up). Plus, not every fuck is going to be the same, sometimes you're going to want raw energy over intimacy. Missionary suffers there. 10-15!!!!!!!!!! EDIT: Realized I didn't address the "behind the back" vs. "on the shoulders" debate. Both are good, I think: the former is more intimate but more constricting. Again, it sort of depends, but I'm a flexible sort, so I let it rock w/whatever.
I'm another tally for the ladies who don't particularly enjoy the ankles-on-the-shoulders position. It's just not comfy, and once they find out how flexible I am they tend to get carried away and just completely fold me in half. Then all I'm concentrating on is not peeing everywhere and not kneeing myself in the temple. No thank you. Wrapping my legs around their waist/hips is a thousand times better.
One of the nicest women I've ever met tore my heart out and burned it to ash without ever doing one "mean" thing.
I feel like the ankles on the shoulder thing leads to his stuff hitting my cervix. It's not super comfortable. Cowgirl all the way!