You've been doing this job for 4 years. How often do you find yourself getting bored on a typical working night? And have you noticed a difference over time, ie has it become more of a dull profession once the novelty wore off? In an effort to appeal to different clients, does your club have offer a diverse look; Asian stripper, black stripper, redhead (you mentioned you were one), etc? Or are the girls largely homogenuous, similar-looking white girls? Also, would be there a problem if, for instance, a new Asian stripper gets hired, and the other Asian stripper there before feels her tips are being threatened?
You say you play characters, which makes me curious. What are your characters? And how do they differentiate from the real you? If you don't want to be specific, I get that. I'm just interested in the general idea: is it a simple personality change or more overt? Do dress up as a cat? Or do you simply take on a fake persona that finds every man and woman who enters the club irresistibly attractive? Unrelated to the above, You've said that your club is somewhat exclusive in that it won't let just any smelly old bum in. But that doesn't mean that there are some highly unattractive people who come in, does it? Along those lines, do you enjoy dancing more for (or on) customers that you find attractive? Or is it all the same at this point in your career? Was it different when you started? And you mentioned faking lesbianism. Does that mean you sometimes make out with other strippers as part of your act? Or were you referring to female customers who ask for lap dances?
Sorry, didn't mean to include "my" in the "My best friend's BFF"... She was my best friend's girl's BFF. Question holds...
Wait, what do you mean by the quotes around dated? You were either dating her or not. If she thought you were dating, she's probably just using the idea that in a relationship, the man pays. As for your question, most of us. I've done it in the past. I might do it again. If you're asking how many strippers use patrons for their money outside of the club? If a guy from the club asks us out and we go to dinner with him, he pays because he's the one who asked us on the date. That's just tradition.
Do you see a philosophical difference between stripping and porn/prostitution, or is it more of choosing stripping over the others for practical reasons (safety, disease exposure, legality, personal preference, etc)?
I get bored once or twice a night. When I first started out, it was really exciting, and that's warn off. But I also do "research" (watch porn and movies with strip club scenes to get new moves) and trying out what I learn keeps it interesting. Well, just like any other job, the club is an equal opportunity employer (it's written on the application) so we have a few different races, sizes, and personalities. There have been a few fights over girls claiming another girl is stealing her moves or is a prettier version of her, and in that case the floor manager gets in between them and tries to figure out a way for the two of them to work together (literally and generally.)
The fact that you didn't even consider me thinking we were dating and her using me says something... I'm talking about me buying her $150 bikinis because I was young and stupid. I guess my questions end here.
It's a personality change and a general aura thing. Most of my characters are bossy, mean types. I mean, I'm not a dominatrix, but I like to act like a bitch. In real life, I'm much nicer. I think that the less attractive guys aren't as rude about it. They're occasionally a little too sex-deprived and willing to go over the line, but most of them are really nice guys who tip more when you pay them attention. So on a making money level, I like the ugly guys more than attractive guys who mostly go over the line and don't tip as much. That said, it's a little easier to get into the act when I think the guy is hot. When I started, I was all about the hot guys, but I learned over time. I make out with other girls on stage, in the private rooms, and sometimes during lap dances. Sometimes two girls are better than one.
I see stripping as a less dirty form of porn and prostitution. You take your clothes off for money, the only difference is that no one expects sex. I feel like it's like, you're not going over some line. You know?
Have you or one of your colleagues ever messed up a dance horribly/fallen off the pole/slipped in a pile of nondescript fluids? What's the worst on-the-job injury you've witnessed? Do strippers get stage fright? Have you or a fellow stripper ever been booed off stage or pelted with old fruit? Why are we all ultimately destined to die alone?
To iczorro: Ok, that's different. In that case, very few girls. There are one or two who will go out on a date and expect expensive gifts, but most of us have a limit to how much we will let a guy spend on us.
There are so many injuries, even the part time girls get health insurance. The worst injury was when, on stage, one girl accidentally stepped on another girl's hand with 10 in stilettos. She broke two fingers and her finger nails were dark purple. Most girls take a xanax before going out the first time. The stage if terrifying until you get used to it. No one has ever been booed, but one girl went an entire song without getting tipped. Aloneness is our birthright and our destiny. <~ I Googled that for you.
You said a lot of guys are too insecure to date a stripper. Has this messed with your personal dating life? How do you broach the subject with a guy who is unaware of your chosen profession? How long do you wait before telling a guy what you do? Can any of us ever really know someone else?
I don't date much. It's usually not worth the effort. I still have no idea how to tell a guy I'm a stripper. There is literally no right way. If a guy I'm dating doesn't know, I try not to wait until it gets too serious. That's the only rule I use. No, no we can not.
Given a choice, I'd rather be shown than told. Focus: Why does it always seem so frowned upon when I sit in the darkest corner of the club with my sunglasses on hour after hour peeling off random items of clothing until eventually winding up naked and jerking it under the table with a hand full of ice cubes from the empty cocktail glass on the table.
Aside from being pretty and not being afraid to get naked in front of dudes, would you say there are any other requirements for being a stripper, psychologically speaking? Do you feel like you have a different outlook on life than most women because of what you do? Has your opinion of the male gender changed at all since you started dancing? Does every rose truly have its thorn? Or is the cowboy's sad, sad song just a weeping child's lullaby of broken dreams scattered like the empty crack vials of our human souls in the gutter of the Universe on a bitter cold Christmas morning of Cosmic Eternity?
Seriously? This seems counter intuitive coming from a person who accepts money for taking off her clothes. I'm not judging, but this needs an explanation.
You have to be comfortable with yourself in all the ways you can. It's not just about knowing that your pretty and being about to be naked in public, you have to be comfortable with dancing in public, with doing gymnastic moves, everything. I think the only different outlook I have is on the male gender. I doubt a guys real intentions more, even the ones I don't meet at work. Um... the second one. Totally the second one.
When we're on a date with a guy, yeah. When I'm at work, I actually get the money a guys spends on me. I can use it for myself. When I'm on a date, the money is being spent on date activities. I can't put date activities in my savings account.