A guy afraid of commitment? Color me surprised. However, we don't have all the facts. Maybe he needs time to think about how he's going to tell you about his mayonnaise and latex fetish.
Oh my god it is crossed between the cross dresser in Silence of the Lambs and the creepy things in Insidious.
There was a time once, long ago, before the internet, when men were content to keep that sort of thing to themselves.
I'd give him 2 weeks to think about it. And part of "thinking about it" means that he gets to fully contemplate what complete radio silence from you feels like. No calls, no coffee dates, no accidental run-ins at Whole Foods. Nothing. In the meantime, reactivate your OKCupid profile and start sifting through all the weirdos...because at the end of those 2 weeks he is probably going to dump you. And you'll want breakup sex, but under no circumstances should it be with him. Fuck some other guy or guys. Or girls--whatever. But you need to start looking now. In the event that he doesn't break up with you, I would recommend that you demand a full and complete explanation of why he needed "thinking time." And if his explanation doesn't include something along the lines of "...I was a fool/didn't realize how much this meant to me..." then I would take a while to think about what that really means and whether you're willing to accept that. EDIT: I want to add that I am very sorry he isn't willing to walk through fire for you at this time. You're kind of awesome and I think he's a derp-head.
I just talked with Mrs. Noland and she informed me I had completely fucked up the schedule for her return in my head and she's not coming home a week from Wednesday, but two weeks from Wednesday. This sucks. Life without women is fucking intolerable.
In the event he doesn't break up with you, I would recommend he doesn't find out about your search for rebound/breakup sex while you were technically still a couple. Ever. Imagine the reaction of the rational and well adjusted men of this board if you posted that the boyfriend you loved so much dumped you because you were looking for guys to screw while you were still dating. Big money says 100% of them side with him. I'm not saying it's right or wrong, I'm just saying; hide that shit. Bury it deep.
Ok. For the record, I already know I'm the minority. Maybe I'm a simple man, a closet romantic with an idealized view of relationships, but this seems like the trait of someone with incomparably low character. At the first site of trouble the first idea is to activate a dating profile and have some new person waiting on the back burner? I know people do this all the time. It bothers me anyway. Here's an ostensibly loving relationship and the first shake-up, someone has to retreat into someone else's bed? This person obviously didn't matter much if one can turn it off that easily, and maybe they were the problem all along. It's not like people don't get back together either. They're apart a week or two or three, and how many randoms fucks has someone had? That's shitty. Great relationship.
You know how guys say that girls 'overanalyze everything?' Exhibit A above. 2 weeks? Get some fucking self respect. Call him, say 'I thought about it, and you're an asshole and a bitch to boot. Speaking of boots, here's mine kicking you to the curb.' Done and fucking done. Passive Agressive to the courtesy phone, it's passive aggressive on the line. The above is nonsense. End it. End it now. Don't look back. rachii, sack is right, YOU ARE WASTING YOUR TIME. Go. Go. Go. Don't. Just don't. It's completely ok to be single. Some of the best experiences in my life were because I was single and had to deal with myself. They weren't always the most fun, but in retrospect, they were necessary for what limited growth I have actually achieved. Or perhaps get a lawyer and take him to court? Seriously? What the fuck. He told you in bitchese that he wants out. Get out. Who cares if you pull the trigger and he 'gets off guilt free.' It's not about blame. It's about being happy. Sticking with someone and doing a postmortem in the event HE decides, after 'thinking time' to boot you, is fucking retarded. Oh God. If he says that, her biggest problem isn't that he wanted 'thinking time,' the biggest problem is that he is not into vaginas and tits. So your advice is to drag it out with derp head? Seriously? rachii, run. Get out. Ditch him. Say thanks, but no thanks. Here's why: There was a special on Jerry Weintraub. He was the agent for John Denver for years. Their families were close. One day, Denver calls him and says 'Jerry, you're fired.' Jerry (after seeing him through thick and thin) says 'ok.' Denver says 'Don't you want to know why, Jerry?' Jerry says 'Nope' and hangs up. Why? Because it doesn't fucking matter why. Done is done. Get out.
You must be a romantic, because it is blatantly obvious to everyone else that he is seriously considering ending things or actively preparing to break up with her. Only, instead of using his words like a grownup, he's hiding behind a "thinking time" wherein he gets what he wants (unrestricted space) and she gets nothing that she wants (clarity). His "thinking time" may or may not include fucking other girls--rachii will never know, though, because anyone who can't sack up and just speak his mind will never be able to honestly tell her the truth about his activities during "thinking time." I would never recommend that she fuck anyone else while they're going through the charade of "thinking time." That's shitty and not taking "thinking time" in good faith. Not sure where that impression came from... But, in the (unlikely) event that he's just a shitty communicator who got scared and developed a sudden lack of regard for her feelings but then magically morphed into SuperAwesomeBoyfriend who wants her back and is deeply sorrowful about making her suffer while he deliberated about whether or not he wanted her love, having merely reactivated her dating profile is not even worth a second thought for either of them. It doesn't say anything about her whatsoever. Eye fucking a dude at a red light has more meaning, actually. Edit: VI, your post is riddled with inaccurate assumptions. Giving him a complete break from her in order to let him have what he "needs" is the next-best option other than ending things (which she isn't interested in at this time, making it a useless piece of advice for her query). And whoever said anything about dating? I was giving her advice on casual sex. But if he does come back for good, and she accepts him back, she damn well better get an explanation. /correcting your reading comprehension issues
Rachiii- walk away. "Thinking time" indicates issues that he needs more than two weeks or so to work out and you don't need to wait around to see if you fit into his head. There are way too many good options walking around to subject yourself to this.
I hate to say it, but 'sack is right. Thinking time? How many times have women said we guys think with the wrong head? And now you're trying to analyze what he means by "Thinking time"? He's thinking he might get some strange, that's what he's thinking. In other news... Authentic Spicy Thai Chicken. Or as my sister called it "VERY Spicy Chicken." You know it's hot if the Thais are gasping for air and guzzling water. This shit will light you the fuck up. But it's delicious...I had 2 huge bowls.
I think y'all are forgetting we're only getting part of one side of the story here. ToyToy, that looks like some good eating.