The best part about it to me is they have the release date posted. "I can meet my soul mate in 6 months! 3 with good behavior."
I met my fiancee on an online dating site that is geared towards military people. Her best friend loves military guys, and she joined as well for moral support. She didn't even have a picture posted, but her profile was so damned funny I had to meet her. Turns out she was super hot. And 5'11". And brunette. And an ex-D1 soccer player. You find love in the strangest places. I met a bunch of girls off that website (it was a gold mine), but they were all crazy. Except for the last one.
I am actually pretty interested in hearing about people that have met and dated exclusively through Facebook instead of say a dedicated dating site. Ive always friended girls after Ive met them out at bars or through friends after meeting socially. Unless Ive at least seen the girl before hand I dont think Ive ever searched out girls randomly to specifically "make new friends" based solely on facebook searches. I always just found it more useful as an extension of real social interactions instead of a facilitator. Has anyone here used facebook to meet/date someone they had no connection too in real life? How did you work it opposed to other more common methods?
Maybe I'm missing something. Maybe I'm old. Maybe I'm just not cool. Maybe ignorance is de rigueur. When most of your profiles mangle the English language, don't bitch about the quantity or quality of the responses.
Eh, why not. I've had little success. Maybe I'm shooting out of my league w/ the girls I'm contacting, but I don't think so. OkCupid POF I've tried a couple different approaches but generally get fatter girls messaging me, and most anything above a 6 not responding. *Shrug*
One of my best gay friends met his now live-in boyfriend through Facebook. For a long time I thought this was just a coverup story because they were too embarrassed to admit it was through a dating site (or perhaps a raunchier hookup site because my friend was a complete slut before he got all domestic), but apparently that's really how it happened. The guy friended him with a message that was basically along the lines of "You're gay and hot. I'm gay and hot. We live within driving distance of one another. We should meet up." They've been together for over a year and the guy moved to my friend's city to live with him. I don't think it works that way if you're trying to meet a girl though... I get weirded out and uncomfortable when people I don't know try and friend me, regardless if it's accompanied with a message like that. I just think of Facebook so much as a nice safe little self-contained place for my friends (and people that I know and am already interested in) that I'm not okay with it as a place where I can also be hit on by strangers. Like a perpetual night out where I "just want to dance." But maybe I'm a prude.
"You know what you like, you're beautiful AND intelligent and you are driven to be the best YOU possible: physically, mentally, emotionally and professionally." Your profile was so good up to this point. It was one of the best on here. So why the superlatives for what she has to be and the caps that make it seem like you only want Stephen Hawking's mind in Angelina Jolie's body? I've never "internet-dated", but you seem to have your shit together right up until you tell the women that they have to be perfect. Relax it a bit and you might just find someone to laugh with and enjoy. My two cents.
Your profile pic is kinda creepy (The zoomed in one on OKcupid). You look like a serial killer in that picture and you used it as your main one. Don't you have a picture that doesn't look like your eyes are trying to pierce my soul. Edit: Also, why has every single person (except 1) has drugs set to never. You are a bunch of liars, none of you have smoked weed.
The choices are sometimes, always and never. Doesn't really provide for much leeway. Okcupid is interesting, but god does it make me feel like a creep sometimes. Whenever you send a message, the page title is "An intimate message." Rapetastic.
I don't really know why I wanted to stay anonymous, but I'll go ahead and say that this one was mine. I appreciate the feedback that some you guys posted. As far as the discussion of the dating sites goes, I haven't had much luck with okcupid or plentyoffish. With women my age, the ratio of ones that I would never go out with to ones who I would on both sites seems to be something like 50:1. Maybe I just don't live in a good area. I am also surprised at how many people on this board have okcupid profiles. I didn't think that it was that popular. With Facebook, this one girl who I used to be friends with met a guy she dated for a few months over Facebook. He had come across her profile and just messaged her. This is the only example I know of where two people met through Facebook with regular profiles. One of my best friends met his current girlfriend on Facebook through that "Are You Interested?" application. I have tried to use it but the whole thing confuses me. It also looks like that the quality of women on it is lower than on okcupid and pof. I knew some friends who met random women on Myspace back when people still used it, too.
I decided to give online dating a shot when I read through this thread. I'd appreciate any tips for the profile I made: Someone contacted me just a few hours after I made it so it looks like this might work. I'm not really sure about the protocol of it all. Thanks to a TiB Member's tips, I'm going to try contacting people through the site, moving it to email, moving it to chat, and then meet up. Anyway, thanks for the constructive criticism.
Have at it. I've met a decent amount of girls and had some good dates off of it. This probably gives out too much info about myself to you Jackals but I guess who gives a shit.
So, I blatantly stole a little bit from YCOSeth and put my own spin on the rest of it and my inbox pretty much exploded. (Okay, not really, but I've gotten several messages in the past hour or so from girls I had written to a few months ago and never heard from, plus a few winks...whatever the fuck that is.) A few people mentioned injecting some humor into things, so good job. http://okcupid.com/profile/travdiddy84
Eh, fuck it. You assholes roped me into the site, originally for trolling but I got sucked into the stupid questions and then I tried to get 100% profile completion because I'm a gamer dork who loves filling up XP bars. Have at it, though most of it was already posted, I guess I'm looking for more photo advice, or what parts I should tone down if I decide to make it a more normal profile <a class="postlink" href="http://www.okcupid.com/profile/LunarLumberjack/" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false;">http://www.okcupid.com/profile/LunarLumberjack/</a>
travdiddy84, you want some serious advice? Get a decent haircut, and get rid of that picture with the chick who's face you cut out.
Are you guys constantly contacting new people or are you waiting to be contacted? Is this whole process a number's game thing? I've got a good response rate, but a lot of this is a much bigger hassle than expected.
YCOSeth, your profile is funny but since there is literally not one shred of anything that's actually about you, other than the fact that you have quite the sarcastic streak, you'll probably end up turning some people away. Obviously it's mostly a joke anyway, but now that you seem "serious" you should probably find some sort of balance between all of that and something, oh I don't know, that actually pertains to you?