It's Ryan Adams, isn't it? nuh-uh. already debunked. i think xray is the leader in the clubhouse. because, if you don't listen to sammy, you are a retard. excuse, me, i mean mr. retard.
i hate being called motherfucker. especially a prickly one. seriously, the only time i got upset at something someone called me was because of the tone behind it. a builder pulled a "listen here sweetheart" on me. i'm surprised i didn't stutter i was so pissed off.
freecorps was right, you guys are some prickly fuckers. here in texas it is common to be called any of those names.
i think it's more about the context and inflection for me. i don't mind a sassy old lady or good ole boy calling me sweetie, hon, whatever. it's kinda cute...maybe even endearing. i just don't like it in a professional setting. it rubs me as condescending or unprofessional. during a clinical a gal made the mistake of calling me "hon" about a dozen times an hour. she did that with everyone. it was like nails on a chalkboard every single time. "ma'am" and "miss" are awful, though. i will never be old enough to be a "ma'am", and "miss" just feels rude after age 12. annnnnd when people you barely know give you a nickname or pet name. you don't even know my last name, but you gave me a pet name like we've been friends for years? just, stop. this is different from the situation above because you know they call everyone "sug" or "sweetie". this is a tailor-made nickname based off your full first name and nobody else calls you that! they haven't earned the friendship right!
i say "boss" a lot. gym, bar, restaurant, whatever. i didn't realize it was so grating. my bad. it makes me think of cool hand luke. i don't really care about being called anything, but i do get annoyed when people butcher my name. it's italian, and it's three syllables. sounds like a pasta. and yet i get all of these off-the-wall names that aren't even close. motherfucker, your name is hoftstadter. you want me to call you hoofstaydar all day? stop fucking up my name. the only other thing i get annoyed by is "brah," which i get to listen to whenever i go home to massachusetts. the combination of the boston accent and the frat-boy attitude is like nails on a chalkboard. hey brah, just go on over to the packie and get fahkin' wasted on jagah or something.
if you called me boss at the bar i'd either think you were bad socially or had low iq. i hate boss, chief, and especially brother. whats with people being offended by being called miss? at my bike shop, if i need to get a female customers attention my go to's are miss or ma'am depending on their age, usually i go with miss because its a safer bet.
i don't mind miss when i'm called it by someone in a store. i just get annoyed when students call me miss because my name is written on the board and i give students one or two alternate names that i will accept. i mostly do it to test if they read the board or not. students who all me miss are the same ones who ask me about the assignment when there is an explanation of it on the board.
sorry not sorry, i'm going to keep calling attractive lasses "m'lady." it's called having class and showing that you're not the type of dude to wait 20 minutes before texting back
there's only one person who called me miss where it bothered me - my old boss. she was in her 50s and used to call me miss tara. i'm the only one in the office who got the miss prefix. it wasn't that she said it - lots of people call me miss and it doesn't bother me - it was the way she said it. it was always with just enough condescension that it got my back up. but when i worked at the dance studio and all the little girls called me miss tara? that was fucking adorable.
On your knees, Miss Tara i stopped reading right there, pictured your old boss saying miss tara, with her wearing a black leather hat and high heels, holding a whip, and then made the whpshk sound in my head. but, yeah, the way somebody says one of those things, can make all the difference. if i'm next in line for something, and the person calls out "mr. rush?" it doesn't bother me at all. but, there's a sales guy that i have to deal with that calls me, and when i answer the phone, he says it drawn out and all annoying "misssterrr rush." ugh.
female. when i was in the army, 'female' was the way we called someone a cunt without actually saying the words. now when i hear it, or if i say it, i hear/say 'cunt'. also - i don't do nicknames. if someone's name is katherine, unless she specifically says "kate. call me kate." i'll call her katherine. i don't shorten names and i don't use things like junior or whatever. i don't even refer to my kids with nicknames unless i'm speaking directly to them. as for people calling me anything, i prefer - and make it known that i prefer - my name, no variation or shortening. i don't know why. it's just something i don't like.
this might sound weird, but i am a kate. i am not katie. i am kate. the number of people who assume that kate is the same as katie is super annoying. it might not make sense, but that isn't my name, and kate and katie feel totally different to me. my 9th grade teacher's name was dan, and when he insisted on calling me katie, i started calling him danny. unfortunately, it backfired and he thought it was because we were buddies or something.
my name is denise. i'm not crazy about it, but it's mine. i give exactly zero fucks when i'm called, dee, denny, neese, shaniqua, tits, supercans, velvet hammers, dallas's mom, hun, sweetie, miss, etc. (given who says it). ma'am irritates me, but ok, it's always been done respectfully by strangers. buuuut, denefew? now you're a fucking loser twat, who thinks he's being funny. i'll call you on that unoriginal bullshit. yeah, haha, i've heard that for 45 yrs. that earns you the death stare, a "really?" and me turning my back on you.
my name is kyle and i hate it. i always have. it didn't help that george carlin made fun of it in one of his stand up routines and that i have a female cousin also named kyle (her nickname is kylee though). girls from college called me kylee because they thought it was cute. i feigned bashfulness, but it made me cringe every time.
after an event this past weekend, i'm adding one to the list. "ladies", as said to reference a group of women who are not well known to each other. as in, "okay ladies, it's time to move this amazing bridal shower into the sitting room so we can open presents! don't forget your bridal shower bingo card!!!" it's the forced friendliness i associate with stepford wives, and is often initiated (and perpetuated) by the woman in the room wearing the most pink.