1) While stupid, I don't necessarily understand the need for complete vitriol. Its just a cliched post on a cliched topic. 2) That being said, you're a bit off. Given the places she named dropped, she lives in or near my hood in Chicago and I would put good money on her not being a cocktail waitress or VIP host, but rather works in PR or for News America Marketing or something. I knew 20 girls like her. Its not an undateability, its being a complete flake combined with some convoluted sense of what "real dating" and relationships are like. Shit like the girl who offered to split the check with me 3 different times on our first date, and I finally relented, and then she ignored further advances cause " a woman should never have to pay, especially on a first date." They don't end up in deadbeat households, they get to their late 20s, early 30s, panic because they aren't yet married, and end up marrying some Pointdexter or pushover tool that they wouldn't have given the time of day 5 years ago and is just happy cause he's outkicking his coverage aesthetically. While they're aren't a future drain on taxpayer dollars, they put the children of divorce lawyers through college. 3) Topo Gigio is a decent Italian restaurant, cliche as hell, but more interestingly is a pretty popular hookup bar for divorcees and singles in their 40s-50s.
It says she "Works for a professional sports team in Chicago". Do teams in the Windy City have professional fluffers? And Wags I agree wholeheartedly that these girls marry pushover dweebs. One they get to boss around and use forever and all they have to do is bang them 4-10 times a year. Arm candy for low self-esteem.
She's an event coordinator for the Four Corners Tavern Group in Chicago (thanks Google). <a class="postlink" href="https://twitter.com/NataliePlatt" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false;">https://twitter.com/NataliePlatt</a> I'll pass, she's not worth a second glance. A fake gold plated turd.
Club Promoter=Event Coordinator<Satan Now doesn't that just figure. A shitty personality with the job to fit it perfectly. Katococh: she looks like a slutty club Oompa Loompa, yes?
Natalie Platt What a small damn world! I was literally JUST IM'ing with her sister about our NYE plans (we are neighbors and do NYE every year together). After I saw the post, I IM'd her and asked if her sister wrote it and she begrudgingly admitted that she had... she went on to say that she doesn't understand why her sister blogs about the shit she does and that she doesn't agree with most of what she says. All that being said, I've met Natalie a couple of times and she's exactly as everyone has described here - very self-centered and vapid. I adore her sister so it's always thrown me off that the two are sisters when clearly so vastly different. This was just bizarre to see and realize how small the world...
She looks like Kermit the Frog in drag. I guess I didn't see that much wrong with what she wrote, It read very self-aware and tongue-in-cheek to me. Yea I guess it's a shitty attitude to have if you have that realization, but whatever.
You don't see anything wrong with implication that the "nice guys" should just wait around for the vapid party girls to grow up and realize that being a decent human being counts for a lot? I mean, I don't see anything in there that would cause me to hate her, but after reading it I'm sure that I have no reason whatsoever to get to know her.
Basically this is my sentiment. Her post was immature, but she's just staying the unfortunate obvious. The response isn't "Fuck off you egotistical bitch," it's "Sounds good, but we're not waiting though. Have fun with that."
I see a problem with it. Who would want some trashy skank's sloppy 42nd's? I'm glad to not have herpes. After a decade of bad decisions, why does she deserve someone who worked hard and maintained a decent standard for themselves? What she said was, "Let me have my fun, and then when I wake up one day desperate and lonely, I will come find you." I find it insulting to think she deserves someone "nice".
I agree- it's her sense of entitlement that gets to me. Being vapid doesn't (thanks Soonergal for the perfect word), but her attitude does.
I'm not sure the first part of what you said is relevant to the second part. People are allowed to make bad decisions, and if you're having responsible sex, why does it matter if it's 2 or 42? I don't even think she doesn't "deserve someone nice" as long as she finds that person at the right place in her life. Really, I just don't like the implication that these guys should just wait around for her to grow up. Like she should be able to put some dude on layaway so that she can test the rest of the market for a while but have someone safe to come back to.
That is the translation. "You're not worthy of me now, but later you'll be a prospect and I'll be nothing. But you need me for arm candy and I need nice guys to complain to about all the jerks I'm sleeping around with!" So they demand these guys just wait on the shelf until they're done having fun and ready to limp to the barn. She is the exact opposite representation of what an adult female should be. She's barely a person, closer to an ornament. One you would hang on the BACK of the tree.
Cause you guys are crucifying a girl for having stupid expectations. Like people have said here, the dudes who end up with girls like this usually deserve it to some extent. Everyone deserves to be happy, blah blah, but if you ended up with someone vapid and self-important, you kind of had it coming. Lets put it this way, if she wrote a post about how she was enjoying her 20s, seeing what life had to offer, focusing on her career, etc.. with the point that she hoped there were others who do the same and she'd find someone compatible later on, I would think the reaction would be different. I know people who have done just that, dated plenty of people casually, probably had more partners than girls like ol' Natalie, and don't get the same kind of blowback. Its all just her attitude and way she presents it. I guess I just bristle a bit when I hear a single girl in her late 20s who hasn't been relationship locked down for years immediately get labeled some cum dumpster, cause its that fear and apprehension of such titles that make girls freak out and need to get married early on. Girls like Natalie, in my experience, usually aren't slutting it around, cause people don't have time for their dumb shit and they end up being sexually awkward. And for what its worth, Four Corners is probably the biggest and most successful (by number of, and popularity of, locations) in the city, and I've known some bright people who work for their HQs, so she's not necessarily some club promoter, but could be in PR for a hospitality group making in excess of $100MM annually. Lets focus on mocking who stupid life view and not making incorrect assumptions about everything else as a result.
I don't think she doesn't deserve a nice person. No one should be mistreated. I said "nice" with the quotes referring to the type of person mentioned in her letter. The "nice" guys she intentionally sidelines because they are probably too boring for her(doesn't like douchey clubs) or not spontaneous enough(have actual jobs that require sleep and personal responsibility and accountability). She doesn't deserve the guys she is referring to. No one is calling her a cum dumpster for no reason. It was her statements about doing the walk of shame and similar behaviors that opened the door. Not being married or in a serious relationship in your 20's isn't a bad thing. There are lot of serious career women out there who don't time to devote to a serious relationship until they get to a comfortable place in their lives. A lot of doctors are like this. Lawyers as well. Even general business people. I hardly classify them as cum dumpsters. Its all in her approach. I knew tons of girls like this one who are now approaching 30 and post on facebook all the time looking for help finding a job. Creating linkedin accounts with beefed up skills that in no way represent what they actually know. And its all hilarous to me.
This happens here, the majority of the posts I see are women who decided that being a nanny for a decade was a better move than college. Now there is nothing wrong with being a nanny, around Charlotte it actually pays very well, but if that's all you've done for 10 years and then decide you want a career it's a weird decision. My wife's friend is in this position, she was over here last night and was complaining that all the jobs she applied for paid jack shit and you had to "work". Also, you know, have to pay "taxes". When you are 31 years old you should have a handle on taxes and related grown up responsibilities. This chick has been getting 750 a week under the table for 10 years and has less than 200 dollars in savings. But she has the swank uptown apartment, eats all meals at trendy restaurants and generally lives her life like Sex in the City.