I would say it fucked up women who were already stupid even worse. The birth of the "Suburban Sophist" who spend their entire paycheque on one pair of shoes and who bitches at your party about the lack of appletini ingredients. To quote my wife "I would punch Carey Bradshaw in the face and steal Chris Noth while she laid there she cried."
Let's be fair though. Plenty of dudes do this shit too. Many guys from my school fucked around for 4 years instead of going to school and now have nothing but an empty bank account and nonexistent 401k to show for their 20s. Lot of them are in bachelor programs now or doing some other menial labor. Hell, I was at my buddy's house a few months back and while we drank beer and ate pizza, a douche bag from high school was painting the walls of his living room.
Absolutely. Often you see the heroes from your highschool football team bagging groceries meanwhile the kid he hung from his underwear designed the software for the automated checkouts and retired at 30.
Oh absolutely. A lot of these guys pissed away a college education studying for something that matters very little to anyone else. They took the easy route. Thought they were untouchable. Ended up being the guys that this chick passed up the nice dude for. Woke up one day with a realization that you cannot piss away your 20's and are now looking for a way to make a living. I have a friend back home like this. He's 28 with zero prospects of moving out of his parents house. Trying to hack it as a personal trainer. Because "school wasn't for me" he said. You don't have to go to college to be successful, but if you don't, try to pick a trade that is useful. No one shits on a plumber(ha) who is banking when people are getting laid off in an economic downturn. Nothing beats a great paying job with no student debt because you found an awesome skill at the community college level.
Why are we rushing to the defense of these "nice dudes"? I mean if they're so awsome then why do we need to worry about them "falling victim" to the "predations" of some washed-up party girl when she hits the wrong side of 30? If you're such a doormat that you'd put up with such disrespect then you deserve what you get.
It'd be upsetting to be a nice guy, land a reformed party girl, and wake up the next day with herpes. The problem with nice guys is they often haven't had the most success with women, so when one comes onto them they have a hard time saying no, and this ends up happening. Its kind of like when a dude is on an epic dry spell, and a big girl starts talking to him, its kind of hard to say no. That said, if this girl thinks party girls would be happy with a nice guy, she's full of shit. They want the stability of having a male be interested and provide for them, but when they get bored, they'll go back to what they know and likely cheat. Its the same thing when a guy who clubs dates a girl who enjoys a quite life. People are creatures of habit, we always go back to what we're comfortable with.
There are also "nice guys" and then there are nice guys. The ones in quotes are the gus who take a passive friendship route to hopefully get a girl they have befriended to take off her clothes for him. He has the same general goals as the outward douche bags, but he just gets angry and petty behind the scenes when he gets shot down or passed over. And tends to harbor lots of aggression towards women. As you may have guessed, these guys aren't really nice at all. The other guy is more confident and has his shit together and a good head on his shoulders. But gets passed up by the girl that still pursues the guy who will mistreat and cheat on her. She won't really learn her lesson until her late 20's. When he has moved way passed chicks like her.
Good point, big difference between passive and quiet. Most quiet guys wouldn't date a party girl, while many passive guys want to but don't have the personality to pull it off (until she's over the partying hill and etc etc)
Lived it. I am this version of nice guy, which is probably what she's aiming that piece at. She's going to end up with the other kind though, with that attitude. The idea that I, who have taken the time to get my shit together and have moved past petty party girl types, should for some reason wait for those types to mature... No. I'll take the lady version of myself. Together, independent, intelligent, driven. I haven't had the desire for pure arm candy since I was in my early 20s.
Exactly. Passive guys want to have sex with her. She's hot. Why not? But no way could they pull off being cool enough at a club or something. Quiet guys just know they aren't really interested.
So the passive guy ends up with the over the hill party girl, and tolerates it because thats the girl he may have wanted for a while. He gets her, tolerates her shit because he's getting the attention he's always wanted, then one day wakes up and is 35, his wife is a pain in the ass and hates his life because he keeps having to try to keep her in line or keep her interested. Meanwhile she's most likely contemplating cheating, if she hasn't cheated already, because he's not her ideal man and doesn't stack up to the guys she was with in the past. Sounds healthy. Lesson Learned: if you're a passive guy don't get suckered into being with that girl.
The problem is if you continue to be the passive guy, you are GOING to get suckered into it, head hanging low the entire time. And unless you're the type who likes driving across town to kill a spider or put gas in her car you won't like it. Women either hate insecurity in men or prey on it. And what do guys hate in women or prey on it? Entitlement.
These are also the guys who lie to themselves about what they really want. They try to change who they are to make the girl happy. Thats why I think its important for people to have their own shit to do. Find your own hobbies. And then you will inevitably meet a person who likes you for those things. Every lock has a key...
I just watched an elderly Asian nun eat a foot-long hotdog, and damn it if I didn't giggle at the image.
If only you had some sort of device handy that could capture such an image. Then, we could've giggled, too.
No way, man. If you photograph a nun, you steal a piece of Jesus' soul and are condemned to spend eternity in Milwaukee. Or something like that.
Uh oh. Does that include the ones that taught at the local Catholic highschool? So, uh, what else is there to do in eternity, besides watch the Brewers lose?