IIIII'M Pickin'-Out-A-Drunk-Thread, FOR YOU! 8/5/11

Not even for an extra $10?

 

You can put your hands around my neck, but the second any significant pressure is applied you will get a solid knee to your balls. I don't want somebody in the throes of passion and on the verge of orgasm in charge of my ability to breathe. That belt thing, even worse. At least if it is just hands if you provide enough distraction/resistance, they have to let up. The belt, not so much.

Just not my thing.

 

Leather belts are good. They give a little if you hook a finger under 'em and beg for mercy.

 

As a first note, this is a rare occasion where I'll say don't do the stuff I'm about to talk about unless the person performing the act has had some competent training in both performing chokes and first aid. This is shit that can go seriously wrong if you, or your partner are stupid. Seriously wrong as in potentially dead.

I use rear naked chokes as part of kink/sex fairly regularly, I usually couple that with a mirror so I can watch my partners face during the play - partly because fucking hot, and partly so I can observe behaviour and make controlled decisions.

I like carotid chokes - I like the control and the relatively low risk associated when performed by a competent practitioner. I like rnc's because they feel intimate - and during some sexual acts they're pretty viable... they also generally don't leave marks. I generally don't like ligature strangulation (too much risk of bruising) or airway constriction - while I know they can be done with relatively low risk - they just seem more likely to lead to accidental harm (rather than the intended sexy time effect). I don't really like bagging because it just kind of freaks me out and I spend way too much worrying about the O2 sat level of the person I'm playing with. It's all risky edge play though - and I kind of think that auto-erotic asphyxiation play is just stupidly dangerous and never a good idea. With a 'dead man' quick release (which is more accurately a loss of consciousness quick release) - I guess it's only obnoxiously dangerous - but I still think it's just a bad idea to do that sort of thing without someone on hand who's not risking loss of bloodflow/air to the brain, and who knows enough first aid to make a solid effort at keeping you alive while calling the ambulance if something goes wrong.

If you've never been choked, or choked out in a 'sexy fun' situation (rather than by a sweaty person you're not at all attracted too in a gym), I don't know how to explain the rush. It's not my thing to receive, but it is crazy, crazy intense. The gray out and the rush is just fucking WOW.

As a top, doing the choking - the power exchange and the rush is seriously intense and awesome. During sodomy/sex with an appropriately bendy partner - it's really, really fucking hot.

On the safety note - people talk about choking like it's going to immediately kill you and panic. And despite my caveats - it's really not that risky. Pre-teens in judo gradings choke each other unconscious on a regular basis. It's not at all uncommon to see carotid chokes to full loss of consciousness in almost any grappling gym. I've never heard of a correctly performed carotid choke leading to serious injury or death in a sports grappling setting and i've never found a writeup of such an even despite a fair bit of looking. But if someone holds even a rear naked choke past unconsciousness and past bowel and bladder evacuation - eventually the person will die.

On safewords when you're busy choking - in addition to the usual words, I use 'Jazz Hands' or 'Spirit Fingers' as a safeword in settings where talking isn't viable. Usually that's a nightclub playspace with loud music - but if the person you're choking has their hands free - it works there as well. Some people hold a ball or a bell in bondage situations so they can drop that as a safeword. It's also a nice sign that you've reached unconsciousness with a partner who's tied into position or laying down so they won't fall during the choke. I usually prefer that breathplay partners be somewhere where there's no way for me to miss that they aren't holding their own weight any more.

 

On the leather belt thing - I do that occasionally - but it's a risky thing. It's fucking hot, but there is a risk of damaging the Trachea or Bronchial tubes. It's also basically a ligature strangulation - so you do risk awkward at work neck bruising. I like leather belts for enough give to have some struggle and play in the process without it being wussy and pointless - and wider belts are less likely to bruise or unduly damage the person you're choking - but I also keep that to a relatively controlled level - I don't slide the belt closed, I just keep both ends in hand so I can release quickly if needed, and limit it to scenes where the other person's hands are free.

 

I just came.

 

It's kind of why I like carotid constrictions and RNC's - there's very little chance of accidentally holding it too long. If you're a little bit sensible, you know when your partner has passed out and you let go. In the majority of circumstances, even if you're an idiot - you know when your partner has lost control of bodily functions - and it's fucking time to let go. You need actively murderous intent, or the kind of bad luck that makes you think that 'Final Destination' was a documentary to kill someone.

 

I'd lick that too.

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But back to rim jobs.

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Or vanilla doggy style sex.

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ok

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Thief.

http://www.theidiotboard.com/messageboard/viewtopic.php?f=1&t=2807&p=145592#p145592

 

I'm a little late to this topic, but I needed to chime in to say that James Dean is the best thing to have ever happened to porn. I would pay to be in one of his movies. He is so obviously actually good at banging, none of the girls ever look like they have to fake anything, and he's hot AND he looks like 90% of the guys I've had sex with, so it's easy to imagine. Is it weird to have a crush on a porn star, especially a raunchier one?

On a related note, I am a fan of choking, and definitely leather belts (around the wrists is good too - actually, I don't think I've had one around my neck), but it takes a while to get to that point with someone, for all the obvious reasons.

 

Uh oh, I've been found out.

I'll go quietly. Bring handcuffs.

 

I knew I loved you for more than your cooking capabilities.

 

Done.

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Does anybody else miss the days when the WDT was more dialogue than NSFW images? I mean a few is just fine but if that is all it is, then it is just a glorified porn thread with no words, just links. I mean, this is the internet, I can find porn pretty easily. It is a bit more difficult to find conversation.

Just me? OK.

 

These threads are so full of sexy pictures. I almost feel like we should have a particular thread for this sort of thing. A porn thread. If it worked out we could make it permanent.

Ah, I'm just being silly.

 

I am so already dreading the gym in the morning. I hate Monday's at the gym.

 

Yeah but posting a shit ton of music videos promotes good conversation for sure.

I think the separate 'sexy thread' is a good idea though.