On leave, back home for ten days before I go off to Yuma. My brother had a bunch of friends at the University of Rhode Island, so we made the trip down there. Beer, Bacardi, and other alcoholic beverages were waiting for us. I got completely trashed. As I usually do when I get drunk, I started singing, and they got it on video. I'm hoping that it doesn't end up on Youtube. I blacked out around midnight and woke up in a different room than the one that I had been drinking in. I felt like shit for most of the next day. Good times though.
Sunday dinner: all beef burger infused with horseradish cheddar and smothered in caramelized red onions. Served on a warm homemade pretzel roll. Debating whether I should have gone for the bacon. But that might have been much.
If you're giving it that much effort, go big or go home. Bacon is a given. I just finished the last of a couple pounds of very thick cut bacon cured with peppercorns and jalapenos and it is ridiculously good. Makes incredible sandwiches or just a complete meal with thick beer.
My friend with a history of disastrous relationships told me last night that it was not our advice that ever changed her mind about the guy. It was seeing us with our respective boyfriends, watching the interaction, hearing our stories about healthy compromises on big issues, etc, that made her realize her relationships were flawed. I never thought of it that way. Not sure how you were trying to talk to your friend, and also not sure if this works on guys. And if you honestly tried everything and he is being retarded, just let it be. It's his life he is choosing to ruin, not yours.
Also, I'm in the stupidest situation ever. I don't know that many people in Boston. The vast majority of the people I know here are girls/gay guys. Both of my roommates are girls, and most of their friends who I've met have been girls. In the past couple weeks I've met maybe a half-dozen girls who said something to the effect of "I'm rebounding", "man I want a guy", or "I need to get laid." I have 0 straight single male friends around here. My dance card is currently full, but I might have to take 6 for the team and just sleep with all of them.
I honestly think this is one of the key issues, he lives nowhere near us and sees us once every year or too. The only people he is close to are her family most of whom are divorced/in toxic relationships, and besides his own parents (who are a good couple) really the only template he knows for relationships.
Why don't you make the effort to see him more than once every year or two? How can you possibly think its okay to interject yourself into his relationship when you don't even try to make the effort? Your post reeks of blame towards your friend, sack up, be the friend you claim to be, and be happy for him, whatever choice he makes. If it doesn't work out, then that' a life lesson he has. Be there for him during that difficult time, and help him get his shit together after.
Can we go one weekend without Tibbers criticizing one another? Alcohol is supposed to make people happy and friendly. You guys are doing it wrong. And look, now you made me do it too. Less critiques, more titties. Spoiler Spoiler Spoiler
I have to write two papers for my Sociology class based on two 30+ page articles. The papers are due in the morning. After reading this horseshit, I understand why most people hate sociologists. I have never seen so much needlessly wordy crap in my life. Why say in 30 pages what you can just say in 5? "Because we're sociologists, that's why!" Rum time cannot come soon enough.
You make a solid point, I've only visited him once, but he is 8 fucking hours away, lives in an awful town with nothing redeeming and has only visited me once himself. Add that to the fact that there have been a few times where we have been in our home town together when she was with him, was sick (more than once), and passive aggressively called him several times while we were hanging out saying she was lonely and needed him to come back. How does it reek of blame? I'm not saying he's a dumb ass or anything, I just think that his experience with women has jaded him so much that he thinks this is the only woman that will ever love him. You have to understand he went through all of high school and most of college A FUCKING VIRGIN despite trying the whole time to rectify this while being rejected every time. And just so I'm clear if a different friend who had experience with women settled down with a fatty I wouldn't bat an eye, but for a friend who I've seen openly act out in anger (non-violent thank god, he's an MMA fighter) because of his poor performance with women, I have to second guess where his heart is on this whole issue. I totally believe he's settling because he doesn't want to be rejected again. Pffff, if I want that I'll post my woes elsewhere, I come here for the verbal abuse.