Tried that already. I'm not tall enough for her. I'm 5'10", she says she doesn't want anyone under 6'2". Something about growing up a short fat mexican girl makes her believe she can only want tall skinny very white dudes. I'm not gonna lie, she's the main reason I started kicking the shit out of myself in the gym, but I only have faint hope left. And since I love I'd like to see her hap... Nope, fuck that. I want her to want me. But I'm gonna have to be a lot better of a person all around to even warrant someone like her. So I have a bit of a crusade on my hands. Make myself a better person. Fuck this sounds pathetic.
Yes sir, have at it. 72, Mexican, former teacher... I'm giving you all the angles, you just work your magic...
So, hypothetically of course, because my friend wants to know, how would the more mature lady respond to the following question: "Hey, I'd like to fill your taco, you ok with that?"
Imagine how annoyed you are when someone pocket dials you. Imagine how annoyed you would be to be pocket dialed if you were a 911 operator. That shit is pure agony.
To be fair, when I read that my gut reaction was, "She's only saying that to let him down gently." She picked a trait that he didn't cause and he can't change and blamed it for her lack of desire about seeing him "that" way. Probably that's not her reason, but like I said...it sounds like she cares for his feelings and didn't want to say what was really on her mind.
She's not nearly hot enough to place some bullshit standard on someone else so she can hide some bullshit insecurity from her past. Its just a defense mechanism to make herself feel superior and give her some room to reject a whole demographic of people. When the right person comes along for her, his height will be irrelevant.
This is great. Perfect, in fact. All of us should strive to make ourselves better people for our partners. Provided the sentiment is reciprocated. In your case the effort is completely one sided and even the partnership is and will always be entirely theoretical.
This is precisely what I took away from it. I also agree that the girl pictured is not hot enough to be laying down arbitrary physical standards (which is why I had the same thought at Dcc). There's something else going on with her. The most important thing izcorro, is 'trying to be a better person stuff' while great (and I'm with Noland here), should never be prompted by the hopes to land some chick (or guy). Do it for you. That's the only reason to better yourself that ever makes sense to me, and generally the only reason people will truly follow through. A bit of advice izcorro: if your heart is truly set on this chick, do the following: Better yourself for you. Date lots of other girls. But date them for them, not because your trying to make her jealous. Get on with your life. One of two things will happen: She will reassess you and think you're date worthy. (In my opinion, this would be the worst outcome. Given the brief bit you've told us, this is not a chick that is going to work out for you, even if she dates you). You will find that there are plenty of other super cool chicks out there that you can have a good relationship with. This would be the win, if you're keeping score.
These are all well and good, reasonable options, but Izcorro needs to show a grand romantic display to knock her off her Messican feet. You should burn her name in her lawn with gasoline. Get a mariachi band to play outside her window as you perform this like a ceremony. Sing a song of lost love then strike the match. WOOSH. Decorate a taco truck in roses so it looks like a parade float. Dress up like ICE to raid her house. Tell her that you were undercover all along "you dirty immigrant." Hold her family under threat of "detention" until she capitulates to marriage. By marriage I mean something akin to slavery where she calls you papi and cleans the house in high heels and a sombrero. Honestly, I agree the only way out of that situation is to date other people. Make sure she knows you're a catch sweeping a gal or two off their feet, then make sure to call her on her shit in a classy, matter of fact, unantogonistic way. If she's still a jerk, then maybe those good qualities you see aren't enough for you to waste heart and soul on a myopic attention whore (that's what she sounds like, from personal experience). Those are two things a man has very little left to give once they have been abused.
I'm gonna have to agree with everyone else on this one. Find all of the other amazingly cool ladies out there. Forget messican. In other news, most likely hearsay to many here, my super bowl plans include going into the mountains and then rock climbing until it's all over. I hate it. Even the commercials are stupid. WABAM.
I hate to tell you this, but you're (metaphorically) screwed. You are the shoulder to cry on and the guy she keeps around because you make her feel wanted and feel good about herself. This is how the game will play out: --You'll continue to want her, while she continues to keep you at a happy distance, while still basking in the fact that you make her feel beautiful and loved and amazing. She'll date someone else, and you'll barely see her. Then they'll break up, and she comes around a lot more when she has been rejected by others. You'll hope against hope that she'll realize you're the one for her, but she won't, because you're not. You're a place holder. A person that makes her feel loved when she has been rejected. --You'll finally move on and start dating someone else that you really like. Suddenly she'll show more interest in you than she ever has. You'll figure she finally came around! This is finally it! Then you'll break it off with the other girl, and she'll say 'Oh, I still just think of you as just a friend," or she'll say "You just got out of a relationship, we shouldn't." This is because she wants you to stay around and make her feel loved, but she doesn't want to love you back. It is complete bullshit, sir. Walk away. This cycle will continue until you start to completely ignore her. Honestly, the only chance you have isn't going to the gym (but that helps). The only chance you have is to completely and totally ignore her. Walk away, don't take her calls, don't be there for her, move on. If she asks why you're being so evasive (I give it two weeks of ignoring her for this to happen), tell her "I love you, and you don't love me. It is too difficult to be friends, so I have to move on. If you love me, date me. If not, respect that I need to move on with my life, and I can't have you in it." Sure, it is a little bullshitty and manipulative, but she is being bullshitty and manipulative herself. If all else fails, date the 72 year old. I bet that'll make her jealous.
T-H-I-S. It's borderline whore logic. Rascism towards shorter people, call it what you want. Most of us in the Under Six Foot Club have had that fucking line muttered to them more than once in their life, myself included. To which my response is usually along the lines of "Wow. you're more shallow than the fucking kiddie pool, aren't you?!?!" I have always been magnetized to tall girls when I was single, and my wife is 5'2". Personality > Height ...is the simplest math equation EVER. Oh, and tall people, we always kicked your ass at dodgeball because we were faster, more agile and you JUST COULDN'T FUCKING HIT US.
Ok. Wow. Never had so many people say the same thing to me in such a short span. My cousin agrees with you guys. My sister agrees with you guys. But... As I repped someone, I think I may be a little masochistic, cause I'd rather stay friends and work my shit out on the side than not be friends any more. And yes, I've considered the fact that she may have been trying to let me down easy with the height thing, but she really has only ever dated tall guys that I know of.
STOP IT STOP IT STOP IT!!!! Every time you'll be arround her, it's just going to hurt. She'll continue to reject you, eventually she'll start dating that tall guy she hasn't met yet but still prefers over you, and then it will hurt even more. Only my opinion, but it seems like there's simply no win here, man. I say that as a friend.
Haha, yeah this right here. I had this cute Jewish girl tell me "I only date Jews." She was starting to date one at the time, so alright, I bought it. Later down the line "Oh I hooked up with this guy" who wasn't a Jew "Oh I finally said yes to this guy who has been asking me out for awhile" wasn't a Jew. I said fuck it and walked away. It's just bullshit and girls think they're doing you a favor by not just saying "You don't do anything for me, no you can stay or go away."