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Sex in long-term relationships

Discussion in 'General Discussion' started by toddamus, Dec 1, 2013.

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What's your take on long-term relationship sex?

  1. Men want too much sex over time.

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  2. Women withhold sex for manipulation.

    15 vote(s)
    17.6%
  3. Both genders need some help.

    52 vote(s)
    61.2%
  4. Monogamy is unnatural.

    14 vote(s)
    16.5%
  5. I'm just here to fuck whoever is running this place these days.

    4 vote(s)
    4.7%
  1. toddamus

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    Re: 11/22 Drunk Thread

    Honestly, I don't know why some guys get so insecure about the dong size. Its not like a woman is going to pull your pants done, see it, then be like "nope too small," then walk out of the room.

    I wonder what the women on here think. Would they not hook up with a guy, after getting heavy with him, after seeing his small tool?
     
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    Re: Re: 11/22 Drunk Thread

    Sure they won't.
     
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    Re: 11/22 Drunk Thread

    The answers you seek lie here
     
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    Re: 11/22 Drunk Thread

    I guess there are size queens out there, though I've never been with one. I'm thinking in most cases it's only an issue if you're abnormally small, or large for that matter. I imagine most women / gay men like to actually feel their partners inside of them, but would stop short of wanting to be split open like a piece of wood on a chopping block.

    FOCUS: My girl and I have been together for six months and we get down 2-3 times a week. I know she wouldn't mind more often but is quite satisfied with where we're at now. One thing I'm taking away from this thread is trying foreplay for a little longer. I think that's been lacking as of late.
     
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    Re: 11/22 Drunk Thread

    I've heard some fucking horror stories of tiny dicked dudes getting giggled at or girls being unable to go through with it because it was too small. And just salvaging the night with a pity bj. I feel bad for those guys because they will either need to date midgets or women who don't care to ever feel real penetration.

    And not to mention her telling her friends about the experience.
     
  6. toddamus

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    So you've heard horror stories? So it obviously wasn't you this happened to, it was a friend of yours right?
     
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    Re: 11/22 Drunk Thread

    That would be a heavy blow.
     
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    This has never happened to me before. But when you work at a restaurant and everybody sleeps with everybody and it suddenly comes out that the supposed ladies man, Pablo, is hung like a baby mouse, it really sucked for him. I remember once the girls started talking, his whole Rico suave thing just died. I felt bad for him. But the dude did act like he was swinging with the best of them. Constantly hitting on all the girls. Catcalling.

    Then when it got real, he just didn't measure up.
     
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    It's alright "Pablo", a talented tongue can somewhat make up for that shortcoming. (somewhat, I am not sure what actual size we're speaking of here)
     
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    Men don't need warnings...

    Well I'm 27, girl is 28. Since we're long distance, we're averaging about 2-3 times every 5 weeks. Woo! I know you fuckers are jealous. That is only if we take time with the foreplay. She rushes into shit, isn't warmed up, and since she's small, it hurts halfway into the 2nd time and usually the third time. Even if we were in the same city, I think we'd average 2-3 times a week due to this problem.

    Also the day I get too tired for sex is the day I need to get a new job or greatly alter my life. I just don't get the "Well its the same woman blah blah blah" well fuck I've had the same hand since I was 14. And even if it is the same woman, she's there and its better than nothing. There are all sorts of tired guy positions. Spooning, her on top, her on her back and you on your side, I mean come on.
     
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    Re: 11/22 Drunk Thread

    Try foreplay that isn't in the bed. Back to that whole making out thing.



    And to the men whose women are mindfucked by life, who need some anger and some disapproval to get off...
    Guys. I'll say it. That isn't such a good thing. Long term, it probably isn't healthy. Long term, things like that tend to stay pretty un-awesome because they spill over into other aspects of life. Not saying you're headed for divorce, and not saying your wives are bad people, just saying that I hope some where along your paths - that gets fixed.

    regarding my post about kissing and affection -
    Do some people watching, go to the mall (gross) or even to a baseball game or something like that. Hell, even go to a bar or a restaurant. Just people watch. Look at the number of people walking blankly along beside someone...not paying attention to one another. Look how many couples look just defeated by their lives.
    One hand - I don't know them, I don't know their circumstances. I admit that.
    Other hand - there's just so much disconnect. There isn't any affection...simple stuff like hand holding or door holding or whatever. It's weird to me.
     
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    Re: 11/22 Drunk Thread

    I just wanted to say first off, the options of the poll were shitty, I get it's a complex issue but for fucks sake. I don't get the whole worrying about other shit when sex is going to happen. I'm pretty much completely stress free though, there isn't really anything that worries me. In fact, the only thing that really stresses me out is a lack of physical intimacy. Plus even if I was stressed about something like work or whatever, if a girl initiated sex with me my pride would not let me turn her down, even though that probably isn't the healthiest choice.

    I've had that happen to me. Chick laughed at me and walked out. That shit destroyed me for years, I was 18 and a virgin when it happened. Not gonna lie, that shit still effects me. I'm like 5.5" so slightly below average but small enough to laugh at? I don't think so. People like to pretend like you can make up for your size in other ways, but that's not universally true, not even close. I don't care what anyone says, size matters and girls seem to enjoy slightly bigger than average from what I've heard. Who here has ever heard a girl say that she prefers a smaller than average dick? It certainly isn't a common thing. I mean, I don't think people are good at estimating the length of dick size, I hear girls talk about all these guys with 8" dicks they've been with and that's like... top .5 percentile (trust me, I did the research after that fateful night, and yes I just soft-balled a gay joke in to y'all, I know) so sometimes I just kind of roll my eyes when I hear that.
     
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    Some people get married without ever actually loving each other, while at the same time never owning up to it. Some people resent their other for (excuse me while I control my gag reflex here) "Holding them back from their unfulfilled potential". Yeah go down another box of wine, paunchy soccer mom. Some feel they need to get married and stay together "for the sake of the kids" no matter how miserable they make each other.

    Choose to live in misery, and you get exactly what's coming to you.
     
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    Re: 11/22 Drunk Thread

    Do you know when I claim to not like PDA? When I'm not all that into the girl I'm with. When I'm with a girl I really dig, I don't give a fuck who's watching, and I have a hard time NOT touching her/holding her hand.
     
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    I'm the opposite of this. I am so used to being alone at this point that I am fine with staying that way because I'm pretty sure that there is no-one out there for me and I have made my peace with that. let's face it: what woman would be happy with no sex life? None I can think of. I simply don't interact well with others in social situations anyway so I don't put myself out there. I suck at reading social cues and always seem to mess up situations for myself and others so I just keep right out of it now.

    I don't like PDA at all, ever. Keep that nonsense away from me, preferably where I cannot see it or, worse, hear it. Ugh. Even if I am in a relationship, I would still be against it. Simply makes me uncomfortable and/or annoyed as it is distracting.

    Yes, I'm aware I'll probably die alone and I've made my peace with that.
     
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    I don't understand. You're clearly beaming with self-confidence, what woman wouldn't want a piece of the the Durbs?
     
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    Re: 11/22 Drunk Thread

    This is not an uncommon reaction, particularly in regards to other people's PDA, and doesn't help nurture a culture of affection overall. It's not like I'm blaming Durbanite here, a reaction is a reaction, but there's a lot of vicious cycle going on where one generation raises the next into their reflexive repulsion at another couple kissing.
     
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    I refuse to raise my kid a prude. How hard is it to look in another direction. dont like the channel? The remote's sittingbon your lap.

    Who hear has been to Europe? It's not an issue over there. They have things like hardcore PDoA and nude beaches because they're grown-ups who don't point and scream because pee-pees are for potty mouths.