Or can we make this another thread? I was really enjoying hearing about everyone's sexless and miserable relationship.
Whatever. Mine's awesome*. *I realize this can change. I'm going to enjoy it now. Thoroughly. And do everything I can to keep it awesome. Because I kinda like the guy.
Fuck, I knew I was doing something wrong. I gotta find me a wife that likes me. It's always the little things.
I'm not in a relationship, but I'm living a sexless existence, so do I at least get half a point? Or do I need to provide an entertaining sob/pity story for your amusement? Keep in mind I resisted piling on in the WDT about a certain someone's current playing status.
I realize we've only been married a couple of years but still. We love each other, are affectionate, doitrightdoittight anywhere from 2-6 days a week (sometimes my giner needs a day off), and are best friends. Not the clingy sickening PDA shit some of you have talked about, but more like we genuinely like to be around each other so we do fun stuff together, be lazy together, work on projects together, etc. It got a little rough with his job towards the end of his enlistment because of certain things happening in the world today that stressed him out a ton but other than that it really is such an easy relationship. We are honest with each other and kind to each other. If you're both trying to make each other happy, why would it be hard or stressful for either of you?
See, this is my problem right here. I'm absolutely fine in the junk department, but I'm only 5'10" and not 6'5"+, which seems to fit the profile of all the posters here and all the ladies' preferences.
It isn't really a conscious preference so much as the fact that I am a wide person and reasonably heavily muscled and feel like I am bigger than men who are my height and a healthy weight. I suppose it is a domination thing as much as a poor perception of my own body. I don't want to feel like I am the one in charge.
I worked with a guy who is in his early fifty's and he said he had a two year stretch where he and his wife had no sexual contact at all. She just had no drive for it and the guy I worked with is a genuinely all around cool dude and he couldn't bring himself to cheat on her. I myself have more sex on my hands then I can handle. When or where it doesn't matter my girlfriend is insatiable, she just has to have a hand on my junk. Now that she's taken a hard left to Kink-Town it seems like I'm along for the ride. It's pretty exciting.
Being as how we've been in a long distance relationship for the past two years, I had to remind The Husband over the weekend that my flexibility and...hardiness? resiliency? are not what they used to be. Sometimes the girl needs a break to recover, and until I get my conditioning back, my legs AIN'T going there.
One thing people don't consider these days: was she on meds of any kind? Because some, like hormonal pills or anti-depressants can butt the wick on sex drive. They have known to make people feel claustrophobic and distant and this isn't a factor that's been considered much. It can be a factor though.
And people don't consider the value in regular exercise and cutting sugar from their diet. I don't want to make this into a food debate, or a fitness/skinniness debate, but the benefits of exercise (not long slow distance cardio) and a good diet are undeniable. Hell, the people I coach are fucking like rabbits when we're in a heavy cycle. They tell me that since they started lifting and working, their sex drive is through the roof.
This is definitely true. Last time I bulked I was beating it twice a day and that's still all that was on my mind, but that could also be because I wasn't getting any and I was pretty desperate to get over a girlfriend cheating back at home while I was in a foreign land. I'm going through the same thing now except I'm trying to exhibit self control and only jerk it once a week, but again I'm not getting laid, I haven't had sex in... I think closing in one two months now. Fuck my life.
I highly doubt it. I've met her a bunch of times and he said she dried up from about 38-40. She's probably 130lbs soaking wet as well.