Well you want SOME excitement. It really takes you out of the mood when some schmo tries to strike up a conversation at the ice machine about his business confrence in the same office park your hotel is in. You are trying to fuck your mistress, not be bored to death by middle class white people. Cum stains and drug deals give it that illicit edge with less chance of being murdered when the spouse randomly shows up.
Well sure but there's more chance of being murdered by some tweaked out meth head. I doubt hubby is going to be looking for his wife in a courtyard, however meth head will be thinking you're a narc unless you show up with track marks looking like hell
What alternate reality are you living in? Most people don't want to spend a bankroll on getting a quickie... you've already got her to agree to it, so no need to throw money away. It's a clandestine hookup, not a vacation.
I've never slept with someone's wife. I have no idea how all that works. I also don't know any married people who have cheated on their spouse so I'm very green when it comes to this topic.
Wait, as often as you talk about how terrible your mom is and how great your dad is, you don't think he has cheated on her?
Very personal question. If he has, good for him, sincerely, it wouldn't bother me. I've been telling him to break it off with her and let her rot for the last 15 years. My mom is white trash who hit the lottery and married a man who would provide for her and tolerate her bullshit all the while requiring her to do nothing, not even clean up her own trash. He's literally told us the only reason he won't break it off at this point is because she gets half his shit and thats just incomprehensible considering how little she's done over this last decade. Some would say my family is dysfunctional, I disagree, I'd say its extremely dysfunctional.
The only person I know that has cheated on her husband kind of boggles my mind. She's a fun outgoing girl but one that was ready to settle down after college. She married someone she seems to fit good with and they are your standard middle class pretty boring couple, they don't fight or show any sort of tension or relationship issues publically. Yet she has cheated on him regularly since before they were married. Im not sure if the guy even knows about it but it's an open secret since we have other friends that are related to her. I also really don't see some open relationship thing, he's the opposite of the progressive type that would be down for that. He might be a true blue beta cuck.
My wife and I are good friends with a couple that routinely cheated on each other before getting married. Then they got married and everything was peachy. Just kidding, they hate each other. Now shes pregnant. That will surely fix things.
I'm guessing I'm the only one here who thinks this, but.... I'd be pissed if my wife cheated on me, but it wouldn't be a make or break thing. I mean if it was a drunken mistake, shit I've done a lot of fucked up things drunk. It wouldn't be the end of the world. We'd talk about it, and if it was because of issues in our marriage then we'd try to fix it. But one mistake, that wouldn't ruin it for me.
That, and if you're trying to hide credit card charges from your spouse, cash for a cheap motel is easier than something fancy(?) like the Marriott Courtyard.
I think you are missing a point here. The issue is that rather than talk to you about the issues, she went and remedied it behind your back. That's a lack of communication. I have no clue what I would do if my wife cheated on me. But I do know it really upsets me if she won't talk to me about things going on. I would never cheat on my wife because hurting her is the second scariest thing to me. Hurting my son is number one. No amount of orgasmic bliss could be worth hurting her.
I always find finances between couples odd. I have my bank accounts and credit cards and she has hers. What I do with my money is my business. she doesn't criticize me for spending all of my free money at the casino and I don't return the favor when she buys stupid shit.
Do people who cheat at motels honestly park their cars there in plain sight as well? I don't even know HOW people cheat anymore. Before the Internet, only the remarkably stupid or unlucky could get caught. Now in a world of camera phones people can get nabbed the instant they cheat. No time to cook up an alibi, no way to deny. I used to think that people who carried on extended affairs or juggled two relationships must be too stressed out about getting caught to have any fun. Everything traces us now, right down to our phones showing everywhere we go. If you want to fuck someone else, I say end it and save everyone involved a much greater deal of inevitable pain. But it's your choice.
This makes no sense. Stupid people these days get caught because they post their own shit online, unless they are famous enough to have TMZ following them around. When was the last time you recognized a car in a motel parking lot and took a pic of them? It's not like it's super hard to still be anonymous and get away with this kind of shit.
Few years ago a group of us guys would hit the movies once or twice a month and then hang out by our cars just shitting the shit until we all headed back home to the womenfolk. On average, we'd see 2-3 "couples" pull in, kiss, then he'd (usually the dude) would get out, get into a car and then they'd both leave separately. Took us a few times to realize what was going on, but it's a pretty solid plan. Gives you ~2-2.5 hours of alone time without any suspicious lack of phone contact
We have his/mine/ours accounts and generally everything stays pretty even keel. Families who have one account and where everyone watches like a hawk are (in my experience at least) waiting for the train wreck to happen.
Our money goes in one pile. Our credit cards are attached to the same account. This was true from the get-go when he made all the money and I couldn't find a job, and now while I am working and he is a student. We also have no debt, pristine credit, and a hefty savings. We don't argue about money. To each their own.
So...nothing happened, but he can't get it up? Shady all around. You deserve better, DND. I have too much of a guilty conscience to cheat.