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1. 100+

2. General attitude towards sex -- which I think informs the circumstances.

 

1. As long as she's clean, who cares?

2. It's about why she's doing it, but I honestly don't care if she's slutty. More fun for me.

 

1. The realm of the triple digits. Like, 200-900. I would like to think I'm open-minded enough to accept any number sans judgment, but I do believe that my first reaction would have a little bit of negative value accompanying it. Nothing I couldn't overcome, though.

2. Demonstrating a lack of discriminating taste, I think. I have no problem whatsoever with someone who wants to get it frequently and from a wide variety of sources, but never saying "no, I'm not even that into it tonight" or "she/he's just not someone I ever want to touch genitals with" is mildly disturbing. But I'm having a hard time coming up with a ratio of yes:no that would define the word for me. It seems so...wrong...to define a type of sexual attitude/lifestyle by numbers.

 

1) Depends on the girl, her sexual history/time active, etc... If you're a 19 year old college sophomore and you're well into double digits (20+) I would falter. But if you're older then I don't care as much, provided you're clean, otherwise its hypocritical. I have friends who honestly want a girl who was had 1-2 partners, despite having 10+ themselves. Its dumb.

2) Its circumstances more than anything for me. Willing to blow a dude just cause he bought shots? Slept with a bunch of dudes in the same frat/friend group? Multiple dudes in short periods of time? Those are slutty behaviors to me. Having sex with your bf in a bar bathroom or having 20 partners at age 25 don't make a girl a slut to me but I've heard such girls be labeled as such.

 

I think that is a little of a hard and fast comparison. I mean look at the different ways women respond to a great deal of things. Women tend to bond more strongly with their newborns than their male counterparts. Women tend not to enjoy fighting as much as men, yet seem to be more intense when they do so. Women tend not to enjoy sports as much as guys, especially in the aspect of spectating. Women tend to nest more, and take greater care of their living space. And the list goes on.

Please note that I'm speaking in generalities. I know sloppy women. I know women that clean up in their fantasy football leagues every year. I know female mma fighters. And hell the woman that spawned me wouldn't know maternal instinct if it came up and kicked her in the chest. So as with everything when it comes to attributing broad attributes to individuals nothing is concrete.

Now maybe some of our differences are the result of social convention. Hell maybe most of them, but I flat refuse to believe that all of our differences come down to outside influences. The same way I refuse to believe a person can tell me for a fact that if I was part of a society that embraced homosexuality I would be up for it.

 

I can't really think of a number that is a no go for me. As long as she is clean, a number isn't going to affect my desire to have sex with her. As long as she is a person I want to spend time outside of the bed room with, a number isn't going to affect my desire to pursue a relationship with her.

I think motivation behind the sex, makes a person a slut. I have known really cool girls who just like to have fun who have done incredibly slutty things. But I know guys, myself included, who I could say the same thing about. I don't think any specific number, or act makes a person a slut. It's when a person uses sex as a tool, or weapon, or a way to manipulate that they cross over into my personal definition of slut. A really genuine, sweet person can like to give blow jobs because she enjoys it. A slut can only be up for missionary, but she's basically using her vagina for validation, or control, or whatever the fuck. That to me is sluttish behavior.

Edit:

I feel in the interest of full disclosure I should mention I'm in the upper 40's lower 50's as far as partners go. I know it's not a legendary number or anything, but it's starting to flirt with that line a lot of women find gross. So I feel having some magical "She's a ho!" number would be more than a little hypocritical on my part.

 

Christina Ricci's tits look fanfuckingtastic in Buffalo '66.

That is all.

 

Missed most of the chat but I was talking to this girl a little over a year ago now and she almost exclusively dated guys who were at least bicurious. Didn't matter if they didn't have anything to do with guys anymore it was just the idea of it and knowing that they had once done something like that and it drove her absolutely nuts.

I fooled around with the idea of it but it doesn't interest me at all and that was basically the sticking point between us actually going anywhere.

 

1. 69 seems as good a number as any other.

2. If you have to think twice about bringing her home to meet the folks.

 

Assigning a number to this seems too arbitrary. 40 is too many, but 39 is OK? Come on.

The two points are linked together. If she just digs sex and wants to have fun and is self aware and everyone understands what's happening, then I don't think the word slut ever really applies.

At the end of the day, who cares? The number that should concern you is the number of partners she had after whatever exclusivity arrangement the two people came up with between themselves.

 

If a woman's count is double my own, then I would probably wouldn't respond very favorably.

Standards are what make a woman a slut. If she's being provocative and enticing, leaving no doubt in anyone's mind that she has sex on the brain - no big deal. But when she starts following through with those thoughts and actions with men of disreputably quality, she's a skank. It works the same way with men though; if a dude has slept with a TON of woman, and they are all ugly trolls - he isn't a player, he's just desperate.

 

I don't think, for me, it's about a number as much as it is about an attitude toward sex. The idea of numerous partners doesn't bother me, but the idea of a partner who's 'playing' people to get them into bed, or stringing people along, or being manipulative...I don't like that. I'm all about booty calls, I think they're great for staying sane, but they've got to be up front and clear on what's wanted.

 

1. I don't want to know so don't tell me. If its a random hook-up what does it matter? If I actually like someone why would I want to know? I might think its too many or think she's maybe fudging the number a little or whatever. I'd rather not think about it. I haven't been in high school for a long time (maybe middle school now?) so I know whoever I hook up with has been with someone else, likely several someone else's, I'd rather think about who they are rather than who or how many people they've been with.

2. I try to avoid calling anyone slutty, unless i'm kidding or trying to piss someone off for giggles, but the obvious "I like to have a train run on me" is good enough for me to think "she's a slut...wonder if she's busy later?"

 

I'm confused. If she gives a lousy, toothy blowjob is that a good thing or a bad thing?

 

I don't ask for number of partners because it doesn't matter.

I find that I am pretty "open-minded" about sex and relationships, however I would not be okay with Mr. P sleeping with another woman or a man.

For us, monogamy doesn't include other people. I don't really go around imagining the other men or women I could be hooking up with, I am too busy to be constantly worried about sex and who could be rubbing their genitals on mine. We have a fantastic sex life, my needs are being met.

Sure, he has a fantasy to see me hook up with a chick and that may happen, but it isn't a priority.


It seems silly to be preoccupied with who else I could be hooking up with.

 

Bad, unless you're into that stuff.

I don't think enthusiasm and skill are entirely related to the number of partners a person has had... attitude is integral to the person and you can learn over time. Natural chemistry is key.