I generally prefer straight forward and outgoing. However, the word "blunt" is kind of a fuzzy word with people assigning slightly different definitions to it. If you mean "willing to speak your mind in a clear fashion" then great. If, however, you mean "unadulterated mean bitch who hides behind 'just being honest' in order to be as cruel as possible" then cut that shit out. There's a difference between being honest and being heartless. Shy girls have an appeal, but eventually the effort needed to get an opinion or preference out of them can sometimes just become frustrating and annoying.
Overall personality. Isn't that how you should be during courtship? Next question: How should you "act" during courtship? How do you "act?"
I would guess being honest about yourself is the best way to act. I really can't say much more on the subject, because I don't really have any experience to speak from.
I find it best to be yourself. That's the only way to know that you could be totally compatible with someone. I know some people do put on an act, it seems silly to me. Is it because they lack confidence? Have nefarious purposes? Are complete jackasses in real life?
Definitely be yourself. It's amazing the amount of time some people put up a front to seem more attractive, or more like what they think the other person wants. Why would you want to do that? The effort, not to mention the masked incompatibility, hardly seems worth it.
Well, "be yourself" only works so long as "being yourself" falls within a set of implicitly acceptable guidelines. The sad fact is that humans tend to base a lot of their opinions on other peoples' character on arbitrary and/or superficial bullshit. So sometimes it's necessary to step out of yourself by some degree in order to avoid summary judgement - if you care about peoples' opinions, that is.
Isn't that motivation to be the best person you can be? What specifically are you talking about that is judged negatively?
Since I'm pretty sure the term "courtship" hasn't been used since the 1800s, I'm assuming that the gentleman is supposed to woo his woman upon arrival at her parent's home with a freshly-brushed horse (knowing your background, Pimpy, this would be ideal anyway). Upon inspecting his horse, the man is invited in by the father, and they discuss things of a financial nature. Naturally, the woman is left out of this conversation, as her small mind cannot comprehend such things. Once the man's financial stature has been deemed worthy, the courtship can begin. From there, they go to a meadow near a small pond and talk of "Just what's to be done with all this plague" and if the man is lucky, he gets to touch her ankle with a long blade of grass--or if she's kinky, a cattail. As a final show of his affection, the man swiftly bounds into the nearby woods to prepare a treat for his love--perhaps a collection of wild lingonberries and lemongrass for her to snack on.
What.The.Fuck. You have either tried this bullshit, or just have way too much time on your hands. Have you tried running a cattail across a woman's ankle before?
The Rape of the Sabine Women during the act... except the one hanging onto the bust. She seems into it.
Yeah, that lady on the bust looks like she's about to go for a ride on a pogo stick. There was actually a classic piece that we looked at in art history class but I can't remember the title of. That one was pretty awesome.
Ahem. That aside, you should always try to be the best person you can be. However sometimes it's not about being a better person but just fundamentally not fitting in and having to fake it for the sake of not being a perpetual awkward situation. Regarding my nerdiness, I generally don't care about what people think about my gaming or what it says about me, but I keep quiet about it for the sake of facilitating normal social interaction.
Yeah, I don't think you immediately lead with all of your off habits or dirty little secrets. I don't think that is deceptive, just something that can be expected to naturally happen over time as people reveal more and more as they get to know each other. I don't think it is necessarily hiding things or putting on an act, just basic decorum. Personally, I am generally more reserved with everybody when I first meet them, so why should my dating life be any different (going back to when I was dating, this whole marriage thing has really curbed my dating life).
That's the problem with women these days--no time for some classic, affectionate foreplay. It's all, "Drop the plants and put that dick in me" with no time to really savor the moment. It's a shame, really.