I'm confused about why you think we're unable to accept it? I'm able to accept that my guy isn't good at some things, like listening to me when I'm rambling about some bitch at work while he's watching Sports Center. No, seriously though...I don't know what kind of girls you've dated, but I am definitely not that picky. If you're not good at something, or we don't mesh in one area, but I still love you and care about you, I'm going to accept our differences and not break up with you. As for your last point, I don't really know what you're trying to ask.
I think he's referring to the cliche of women acting like they have something bothering them, but when questioned, say something like, "Oh, it's nothing."
Stealth, stealthy stealth stealth stealth. Listen. This is the elusive rainbow unicorn of dating advice for chumps like you. You don't need to be a genuinely nice guy to get laid. You don't need to be an asshole to get laid. There's a unicorn out there for everyone and each woman has her own personal taste. Unless you're a lying, deceitful shit-covered unicorn. Everyone hates shit-covered unicorns. Women, why is it that when I sleep with one girl in a circle of female friends they all want sex? My existence seems to defy the whole "friend zone" concept despite being a bipolar nerd. Does it not bother you that your best friend(s) has/have already been with me? I know it would bother me to the point of passing it up.
On a lighter note, here's a question I have for the lovely ladies of TiB: Why do women all seem to universally love horses? You can mention horses or horseback riding to any woman in the world and I swear their eyes will light up with glee. ETA: Oh, is it also true that all girls want a pony sometime in their childhood?
We love having our legs wrapped around power. And yes, every girl wants a pony. Whether, she still does after understanding how much work they are is another matter entirely. edited to add: Okay, certain things about horses appeal to women. They never lie to you. They listen without interrupting. They are, for the most part, peaceful. They want to work with you. They are fast. They can be slow. They are calming when all else in the world is raining hell down upon you. They are expensive as well. It seems women generally love expensive stuff, unintentionally.
I always figured it was a kinship thing. "What's that, Mr. Horse? People spend an inordinate amount of time and money on you just for the privilege of getting to ride you? Me too! Different kind of riding, though.........."
We like to thinkif you cared about something, you'd put effort into it and learn. It seems women that do this second item are probably looking for a reason... I think I get this last one...women can tell when something is off and often believe it is helpful to discuss it, to remedy it. We expect you to ask if something is off and are often surprised when it isn't as obvious to you as it is to us.
The easiest way to take the measure of a girl is to see how jealous she gets when her girlfriend gets something she doesn't have. Unless you're just the useless manwhore that gets passed around because they all have nothing better to do. Ponies are fucking awesome. They're powerful beasts that will take you wherever you want to go, and the exhilaration from getting a horse to listen to you is about 1000x more exciting than when you get your dog to listen to you.
I think he has it reversed. Or maybe he means it literally, like Aetius was sodomizing Lamar Odom and the latter clenched real tight.
This might not be a 'gendered' habit, but I'll ask anyway: why must you ask questions you don't want to know the answer to? And for a related question, when a woman asks how many other women you've been with, what is the best answer? I mean, I know that literally every conceivable combination of words in the English language is the wrong answer, but which is least wrong? My answer has always been along the lines of "Why does it matter to you? None of them are here now." and then waited to see what her response was. I'm curious if there's a better answer. And yes, I know the best course of action is to avoid women who would ask such a question in the first place.
Word to the wise for any of the younger guys reading this, maybe thinking about making a girl jealous by fucking one of her friends/roommates/sorority sisters/acquaintances/etc... If you're doing it to just get a raise out of her, or force her to deal with some sort of complex emotion that she's feeling in hopes that she'll realize she's angry because she likes YOU and it should be HER fucking/dating you and she'll tell you that and finally you'll have her and everything will be peaches and cream ....guess again. There's three possible outcomes: -she doesn't care, so now you're pissed off and angry and bitter. -she cares, gets upset and your relationship is now damaged irreversibly and you've shot yourself in the foot. -she cares, gets upset, you hash it out, maybe fuck/date, but there's a giant pink elephant in the room that you banged her friend, which is especially awkward whenever said girl is around/brought up/seen on FB/etc. Or, you know...go ahead and do it. Whatever.
Asking for genuine advice... I don't want to end up like Stealth. I'm only 20, so there isn't too much bitterness yet, but I get the feeling that in a couple years things will be a lot worse. How does a guy express interest without acting creepy? I know this sounds freaking retarded, but I need this pretty much spelled out. I have absolutely no idea how it works. I don't have a very firm grasp on social interaction to begin with, and flirting is completely beyond me. I don't want to come off as a creep, but on the other hand I need a way to express interest or else the girl won't have any idea that I'm into her. I don't seem compatible with many girls. There are plenty of women I've talked to that seemed perfectly nice, but they aren't looking for someone like me. They're looking for someone who's outgoing, charismatic, almost flamboyantly affectionate. That sort of interaction is completely fake when I try it, so I've tried looking for girls who are interested in a quieter, more subtle person. But... there don't seem to be any women who are actually interested in that. Am I just looking in the wrong place, or are these traits genuinely unattractive? The other possibility is that my traits are pretty ineffective at masking my shortcomings and problems, whereas someone who's outgoing can cover up his issues much more easily. I'm not desperate, but I do have confidence issues. I keep getting told that my confidence issues will disappear once I actually start getting women, (i.e. "Fake it till you make it bro, things will be fine") but I've found it difficult to just get into the game. Is this actually good advice? I don't see much of an alternative, but it doesn't seem right.
"Hi. My name is Omegaham. What's yours?" If apparent interest, explore. If not, find new girl, repeat. Seriously... don't overthink it.
Not sure how you feel about it, but the guys I know who online dating helps the most are interesting/cool guys who are kind of quiet or shy. That probably describes you, so you might look at a setting where you can get to know girls without the same throbbing pressure of a club or party or something. Plus, it has the added benefit of allowing you to talk to girls who are at least nominally interested, which can be a nice boost. Talk to a few people, go on a few dates, get to know a few girls, and all of a sudden you at least have a vocabulary/gameplan for if and when you want to go out into the non-virtual world.