I would like to add more of my boyfriends: Apparently the last one is touchy for some dudes. I was hanging out with a bunch of guys, and a trailer for 50/50 came on and I went "I love Joseph Gordon Levitt!" and three of them went 'RARR OF COURSE YOU DO." I would think guys would be excited about girls loving him, since I'd imagine it's much easier to be like Joseph Gordon Levitt then, like, that athlete guy DCC posted in the drunk thread. Shrug. As to what we're actually talking about, that's fucked up, and I don't have any good reason as to why girls would think that. But I have discussed my interest in dating a bi dude before, so maybe I'm biased. (I had a lot of trouble with this post. I hope it shows up that I had to edit it four times.)
Perhaps you don't know about the prevalence of AIDS in the gay community? I also understand that if you have poop on your wiener and you put it in a girl she can get a nasty infection.
There's also a perception that female sexuality is ephemeral and immaterial -- i.e., bisexual (and even lesbian) women are just waiting for the right dick. Whereas any guy who expresses even the most fleeting attraction to another male falls firmly into the "gay" category. Really, the answer is, if somebody says something like that, they're an asshole and they don't deserve to date you. Which I know is easier said than done, but fuck them, you know? Also, Joseph Gordon Levitt is a pretty fantastic young actor. But let's be really real monroe, JGL is about as actually rare as Brett Lawrie is. Getting to know Ryan Gosling (for example) through his publicist and movie roles is quite different from actually knowing him.
Also, just because I must've skimmed over this bolded part earlier: I don't know that I've ever run across a lady who won't date a guy because he's had a homosexual encounter/experience. I'm not saying these ladies don't exist, because I don't troll the women-for-men section of OKC as often as y'all do and my sample size is much smaller. But to flat out decline a date with someone because they've fucked a dude once or twice is homophobic. Plenty of men experiment with other men, decide it's not for them, and never do it again. They're just as straight as someone who hasn't experimented (except they have the added bonus of being able to definitively say they've tried it and it wasn't for them!), so the hang up is weird to me.
You don't get to like him! Take it back! Seriously though, I somewhat understand the bristling when it comes to JGL. He's one of the few famous men who is quietly attractive and who isn't just pure muscle and testosterone eye candy. I think it stems from the fact that he comes across more like a renaissance man than the typical female crushes. I also think guys feel threatened on a much deeper level when they perceive another male is more intelligent than them as opposed to physically stronger or better looking.
I'm not sure but the reason is probably that I can* go to the gym and make myself muscular like Brett Lawrie, but I can't go to the Handsome Store and make myself look like JGL. He also seems so effortlessly charming, and rightly or wrongly dudes feel like that's an ingrained trait. They'd prefer it were a Charmocracy (which sounds like a word for a government run by Alyssa Milano). *Theoretically, because fuck that nonsense
WRONG! Spoiler He gets to hang out with the motherfucking Batman. That's why we're jealous. And the fact that his eyes are soooo dreamy
Apologies for changing the topic from hot men, but the "Coochy" product mention made me think that I can ask this question here. Regarding...personal grooming, for the past year or so, I've done professional waxing. I've tried going to the cheaper places, but I have really sensitive skin, and cheap wax leads to very sad skin. Thus, I've been shelling out $50-60 dollars each month for a bikini or brazillian wax, which is just no longer financially sustainable. I've tried at-home wax kits (absolute disaster) and shaving (even with new razors and special shaving cream, my skin can't handle it). Any ideas from my fellow TiBettes? I prefer going smooth, but it's not worth razor burn in sensitive areas. One of my crushes: Robert Downy Jr. Not usually one for smokers, but... Also...
I am so ready to have some goddamn sexy times you guys need to stop posting pics of RDJ right the eff now.
Does anyone else think the resemblance to Robert Patrick when he played the T-1000 is uncanny? I'm sorry, I can't get on the JG-L boat. First, I find adult men with hyphenated last names tend to be prissy and bitchy (purely unscientific, just my own observation of those I have known). I also like men to be manly-men. He seems slight of stature and fairly plain. Just doesn't do it for me. I can't BELIEVE I haven't mentioned one of my most ardent loves! Gale Harold, when he played Brian Kinney on Queer as Folk. Before you clamour that "Oh, he's a gay guy and you said you like manly men!" He (the actor) is heterosexual, and if you don't think Brian Kinney was a manly man, then you never watched the show.
For hair removal, what home products have you used? I like to use Sally Hansen wax strips. I get the bigger sized sheets and cut them to size. I only use them for my panty line, since if I shave that area, wearing underwear tends to irritate the hair follicles. I also use a DE safety razor (See: thread in general discussion) and go with the hair to get it really short (not baldy though, if that is the effect you're going for). I'm not good enough with the home wax strips to do the under parts. And honestly, I've never had a professional waxing job done so I'm not sure which parts they wax. Everything? Even the vulva? I use a hair dryer for a couple seconds on each side of the strip, lay it down smooth on the area, and then let it sit for about 30seconds-1 min before I start ripping. The first several times I did it were intensely painful and the area was red for awhile. I recall there even being small dots of blood from the hair follicles (though I've heard first time waxers can experience that even in a professional setting). God, all this girly talk is making me realize the amount of money it takes to keep me looking female instead of like woolly beast. I don't even consider myself a girly girl or high maintenance or anything, and I'm adding these numbers up in my head....yeesh.
So I have exactly this problem, complete with horrible ingrown hair and other things, sometimes even with professional waxing. The singular most important thing I have found in hair removal has been exfoliation. So long as I exfoliate really really well around the days that I'm shaving/waxing/whatever, in general I can get away with either hair removal method. I also use an ingrown hair product like PFB Vanish (or some people swear by Tend Skin, although it made my skin way way mad) almost every day. Aside from that, staying super well moisturized has been a huge help. I bought a couple of the microfiber cloths and just exfoliate the crap out of my whole body, with extra focus on the places where hair is to be removed/has been removed, every time I shower.
I might be going on vacation with a guy, so I've been thinking about waxing totally bare. Since I'm broke, I've been thinking about trying to do the at-home route, but I have a feeling my propensity for calamity would make that end up being a complete disaster. Like "oops somehow I don't have a vagina anymore" level of disaster. That being said, does anyone have any recommendations besides the Sally Hansen one? Tips? Suggestions? ...and if I get high beforehand, do you think that would greatly increase or decrease the chances of disaster?
My advice is avoid like the plague, go into debt for pro waxing if you truly care. Not only are the angles involved unfathomable, the speed with which wax strips must be ripped off is truly amazing. If your skin is sensitive at all, you will fuck it up (or at least, all of this is true for me. Maybe I just suck at being a girl).
Go to Sally's and ask for the Gigi Microwaveable Brazilian Wax. Get some applicators and a skin numbing spray or cream (usually lidocaine). The wax is nuked and you don't need strips. Just apply it with the applicator, let cool, and rip it off. Exfoliating beforehand is good, I really like sugar scrubs. I don't recommend getting high unless your a pro at waxing yourself. I also don't recommend waxing your own vulva. Dear gawd, that makes me shudder. Wear a thong that fits well and wax around that. You'll probably have to chuck the thong after. You can also buy disposable panties at Sally's. After waxing you should apply witch hazel to calm irritated follicles, it works really well. Keep your panty line moisturized with unscented lotion, dry skin gets irritated with a quickness. Stay away from panties that aren't at least mostly cotton or silk, to avoid bumps.