The guy writing that was going for drama and entertainment. Unless his IQ and his shoe size are interchangeable, there's no way he seriously considered the possibility that what he was going in for was even vaguely similar to having the dog fixed. The hot nauseating spike of pain warning was about not allowing post surgical recovery time. It's minor surgery, but its still fucking surgery. If you've ever had a mole removed and banged the removal site into a door or something the next day you know shit is tender while you're recovering. Psychosomatic manifestations like that seem like they'd be pretty predictable really though. Do you have a deep seated concern that you might feel like you're less of a / not a real man after the surgery? Or do you look at the stories of guys who headfucked themselves impotent and think 'What the fuck? How do you get sperm count and manliness as mixed concepts?'. I'm 100% confident that no matter what else happens in my life, the number of swimmers who make it out of Mister Happy will never impact my mental view of my own masculinity. If you think you might have a non rational association with those concepts, I totally get why it'd be a show stopper. But if you look at those stories and just get confused about how anyone gets themselves that fucked up? I think you'll be fine.
The doctor I work for just says "now it is going to feel like you are getting racked", so the same sensation that men get and survive a hundred times over during their lives. And it is done in a normal exam room and not the OR (yes, the same exam room that you would come if you had a UTI), there is minimal (if any) bleeding, and the vast majority don't need a single stitch. Like Scootah said, a bit of this story is for the dramatic. What type of story would it be if he described it as less involved than a root canal. Regarding that psychological implications, that's different I suppose.
I'm just a little nervous about it. ANY man should be nervous. You're talking about the area that contains approx. 95% of our nerve endings and at least 80% of our story sources. Remember: two thirds of the word "happiness" is penis.
Interestingly, this does seem to be the case. The first study I linked to above found much higher levels of erectile dysfunction in men who'd been pressured into having the vasectomy by their partners than in men who'd done it of their own free will, so to speak. I'm not sure the issue is as simple as you make out though. I don't, at this moment, feel like my manliness is in any way linked to my sperm count. But then again, when I feel the need to go out and get laid, I also don't feel like I'm responding to a biological imperative to procreate. I'm not a biological determinist by any stretch, but I do think a lot our sexuality and psychology is bound together in places far more opaque than those we can examine via conscious thought.
I know I'm a bit of an ass burgers kid - but I'd argue that there's nothing that we can't examine via conscious though. Some things we don't have enough foundation understanding / vocabulary / whatever to process in an intelligent way. But we can examine anything with conscious thought. And psychology/sexuality and their interactions are things that we might not fully understand yet - but we certainly have most of the vocabulary and a majority of the foundation understandings to process it on a rational/analytic basis. I think we're kind of hijacking the thread and I'm not sure that this really relates to 'chick stuff' any more. But I think there's a clear case for psychosomatic impotence from people who've had vasectomies because they felt like they had to. I know lots of guys who have at least considered 'falling on their swords' so to speak, to spare their wife the much more invasive/traumatic surgical options, or the ongoing impacts of hormonal contraceptives. I know guys who've felt like they were pushed. I'm sure those groups are a thing and I can totally see how the conflict/resentment/sense of disconnection from masculinity with the procedure would combine to put a down on Mr Happy's day. I'd be curious to see how many of those guys magically got better with different partners (shifting the relationship resentment from the sexual encounter). Or how many of them got better after talk therapy without their partner and some couple's therapy afterward.
The anesthesia injection was just a little pinch, and I couldn't really feel the operation at all, although my wife said it bled more than she thought it would. You will want to go get your prescription filled immediately upon leaving the doctor's office and take your medicine as soon as you get it. Don't wait around. After the procedure be sure you wear your jock strap all the time. Don't even think about wearing boxers for a couple weeks, no matter how nasty the jock strap gets. I guess you can get a few jock straps. That'd be smarter than me. And finally, don't pull off either of the scabs that'll form after the operation. You might pull one of the stitches out of your aching ballsack like I did.
Yeah well, we just don't have the proper tools to distinguish between snail and turtle speed yet old timer.
So, how exactly did the Tibette thread become an almost exclusively dude-centric dissemination (de-semen-ation? hah!) of vasectomies? Back to the girl chat. All my life I've carried the "mom-wallet" - the big long one that ends up packed with various cards, and has a slot where you can lay out money flat. It's becoming overbearing and takes up way too much purse real estate. I'm thinking of switching it up to a cards-only wallet and a change purse. Is that arcane or fucking brilliant? For reference, I'm talking about this pairing: +
I'm partial to my wallet, which looks similar to this: It fits my cash and essential cards. Then I just carry a little coin purse.
Ladies all you need to do to chase off the manchat is post a naked pic of a dude. On topic, I like this:
I switched to the "mom" wallet about 6 months ago. I can just stuff my keys in my pocket and grab my wallet. It has room for all credit cards, ID cards, gift cards, paper and coin money, and I think it is cute. I have this one from Target (also have another black one with bronze buckle from Target but it's with our stuff being shipped, so it isn't on hand at the moment): (face painted out because I just woke up and nobody wants to see that shit). I had the more broken up system in college and I was always losing shit in my purse. I didn't even have an oversized purse and yet somehow, I would be digging every time I had to look for something. I still carry a purse for keys, sunglasses, to-go makeup pouch, random mail and other miscellaneous shit, but having all my IDs and money in one spot is definitely a good idea for me.
So, I don't want to derail the Tibette thread again with a guy question, but I promise this will be better than vasectomy talk. I am on the verge of buying an engagement ring, and I would like some opinions on the choice I am facing. For my price range I am looking basically at two different round diamonds, one is just barely under 2/3 carat and excellent cut/color and good clarity. The other is 3/4 carat, but the cut/color isn't as good. I am leaning towards the smaller, higher quality, but I'm a guy and we think differently. So for the girls, would you rather have a slightly smaller, but higher quality diamond or a larger diamond with slightly less quality?
What's the difference in cut and color? If the visual difference is negligible side by side, go with the larger diamond. The numbers and letters GIA or whoever slap on there is a DeBeers tactic to squeeze money out of consumers, and most of the top rated stones (above, say, VS2 and I color) are pretty damned close in appearance, depending on how well the stone was cut (much more important) and the location of the inclusions. I recently saw a VERY poorly cut VVS2, E color diamond that didn't sparkle at all, because it was cut WAY too shallow in order to look wider from the top.
It depends on her taste in jewelry. If she prefers big baubles, go for the bigger diamond. If she likes simpler jewelry, go for the smaller diamond. My personal opinion is that I care a lot more about the design than the size of the rock (and prefer a smaller diamond).
My fiance picked a beautiful diamond that wasn't as big as the others but had better clarity. Like audrey said, it all depends on her taste. I prefer quality over quanity but other girls might be different. Just make sure the jeweler you go to puts the diamond on a white piece of paper so you can see the tint.
I went for a locally hand made ring with a Lazare diamond (<a class="postlink" href="http://lazarediamonds.com/" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false;">http://lazarediamonds.com/</a>) which are some of the nicest rocks I have seen during my research. Each diamond is an ideal cut.... in 1919, Lazare Kaplan’s cousin, mathematician Marcel Tolkowsky, first published the mathematical formula for diamonds cut to "ideal" proportions, a formula designed to optimise the brilliance, fire and sparkle in a polished diamond For what we paid I could have gone to a chain type store and gotten a bigger diamond but knowing that my ring is MY ring and wont be mass produced a million times was more important to me. It is also solid white gold with no plating and made in a wax cast which is a method rarely used today. Being able to speak to the person who made the ring instead of a sales person trying to cram me into a cookie cutter solitaire was another huge selling point. In the end just make sure that she is going to be able to wear her ring in her day to day life and it matches/suits her personality and style. <a class="postlink" href="http://jamesbradshawgoldsmith.com/" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false;">http://jamesbradshawgoldsmith.com/</a> <- the person who made my ring.
Anyone else watch "Girls" ? Last night's episode was the best so far. Really hoping Marnie's boyfriend flips the script on her and goes raging asshole mode.
Was I the only one who thought Hannah had done NOTHING wrong? Those journal entries seemed fair and honest. Plus, you know, her privacy was grossly violated and her innermost thoughts thrown out there for all to see. Why was she the one blamed for everything? Plus, I loved her speech to her BF. That sounds like the speech you construct in your mind days after the confrontation took place. The one you WISH you'd thought of at the time.