Or get better friends. Either way. The one thing that struck me as truly odd in the original post is the idea that having anal sex somehow changes how you view someone. I think that sentence fragment may be the crux of the whole issue here. If that attitude is present then there's almost no way the experiment is going to go well. Whereas if that attitude can be examined and hopefully overcome, it might actually make the idea of pegging less troublesome in the first place and more fun if it happens.
This is a really good point. I suppose my views on sex have always been, "Hey, if both parties are game and capable of consent, who cares?" Of course, I'm female so maybe it's easier. I've dated a few guys who had bi tendencies, and while they were fine to discuss them with me (presumably because I didn't care if they were or not), they kept it a closely guarded secret everywhere else because the idea of people knowing made them uncomfortable. Not that anal sex with your GF is on par with bisexuality; rather, the idea that your masculinity is somehow on the line here is kind of foreign to me. Bottom line (pun!): if you feel comfortable with it, go for it. If you're not comfortable with it, don't do it under any circumstances. You shouldn't feel cooerced into a sexual act, any more than a woman shouldn't feel pressured into one.
So much of sex is mental. If pegging you creates a hot dynamic for her, it doesn't matter whether it's getting her off. Worry less about orgasms and more about just doing the damn thing. That being said, a lot of women report feeling a sort of "phantom pleasure" while pegging a guy. Then there are myriad strap-ons that have bits that go inside of a woman/rub against her clit. Or you could always go down on her afterwards. Or whatever. I wouldn't try it if you're super uncomfortable with it, but if you've got some interest, then start slow, with maybe a well-lubed finger during a blow job. Then, when you've gotten more used to the sensation of having things inside of you, you can decide how big/hard you want to go. It's totally possible that she'll look at you differently, but if you have the sort of GGG relationship it seems like you do, I'm pretty sure it would be for the better. And there is the not tiny possibility of you fucking loving it. Remember -- she's probably really interested in new and fun ways of getting you off, too.
Wedge sneakers came in, I actually think they're pretty awesome. Not with my lame boy outfit, but would work with other things I own. Surprisingly comfortable. woot. Fashion is weird. spoilered for size
Comfy though they may be, they're still not my bag. Now these, on the other hand? A comfortable and delectable Mary-jane with a four inch heel? These are my speed.
On a physical level, some women do get off on pegging from the simple physical act. There are strapons that sit in fun places for girls (just shop around for harnesses, find one where the toy sits above a fun spot when it's strapped onto her), and provide external stimulation for her, and some that are inserted into the woman who uses kegel style contractions to hold the toy in place (can't google atm, at work, but I think Feel-doe or something?). I know that as a top - I've been with lots of people who thought ass play wasn't fun before I showed them some better ways to explore it (male and female). But for some people (myself included, tried it, just wasn't fun) bottoming for that just isn't a good time no matter how well it's done. But there are a lot of ways to make a potentially pleasant experience really unpleasant, and don't necessarily write off one bad physical experience as meaning it's not for you if the idea still seems like it might be hot.
Have you guys heard about Mindy Kaling's new show that just got picked up for Fall? It's called The Mindy Project, and there's already a preview available: I'm really looking forward to it. I think Mindy's a great writer with a refreshing point of view. I think it has a lot of the things people were excited about for Girls, but with an Indian lead so...yayyy. I have high hopes.
I have a deep, profound, oh my god make me squeal like a little girl get the fuck away from me phobia of strap-ons. I can't even go near them in a store. I have no idea why...but I do. It's the same squealing terror I feel for June bugs and spiders. Can't do it.
Girls thread is up, so it can be discussed there instead of randomly dominating this here tibette thread.
I am not usually a fan of long hair on a guy, but damn if this guy doesn't push nearly every one of my buttons. Might be the genius he plays on tv. Either way, I would do awful wonderful things to him.
It was cruel of you to not mention his name. I agree about long hair completely, but that length on that type of guy is definitely sexy.
He looks like someone I could go shopping with, and then be embarrassed because he knows more about clothes and fashion than I do.
IS HE LEAVING?! that cannot happen. He's probably my biggest celeb crush, but that's totally just because he's such an adorable genius on Criminal Minds. (it's Matthew Gray Gubler)
I thought I'd give a review for the Nuvaring since I just finished my 3 week's worth of it. I give it 1/5 stars. -I had daily low to moderate cramps that felt like period cramps from the ring. -My sex drive is gone. -It was like I was pms'ing the whole time. I'd be bitchy and not even realize it, or I'd start crying for no reason, or, for a couple days in a row, I was seriously depressed. I kept it in because Differin can cause birth defects but I'm over it. I'm not messing with my hormones any more. I'm off Differin, off Nuvaring, just give me my sanity back.
I was just uploading some photos and came across these from a couple of weeks ago when I got the opportunity to meet my hero, so I thought I would share. The highlight of my life so far was meeting a 50 something year old gay man. I dare anybody to top that. I figured if anybody could appreciate how exciting this was, it would be the TiBettes. Front row seats at a fashion show. And meet and greet after, the cheesy grin on my face pretty much says it all.
I am going to a wedding in June with Southern Boy. It's in the afternoon. Swanky kind of place, the couple are both lawyers, and Daddy's got some dough. If this was NJ, I'd just find myself a cute black dress and be done with it. But I'm looking to branch out into other colors besides black, especially since this is my first southern wedding. For whatever reason, I feel like a black dress is a northern thing and spring-y colors is more southern. I don't know why I feel this way. I have one of those damn near impossible figures to dress shop for - (I swear, I am not bragging) petite, 100 pounds, 32D bust, small waist. I have a tendency to wear green a lot since it highlights the ginger hair and green eyes. I work for the state, so, budget is less than $100. Help.
No black. Dear god, no black. <a class="postlink" href="http://www.modcloth.com/shop/dresses/portrait-of-a-fashionista-dress-in-cobalt" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false;">http://www.modcloth.com/shop/dresses/po ... -in-cobalt</a>
What is your style? Are you more conservative, more flirty, more formal, more bohemian? Do you want something form fitting and slinky or fun garden party a-line style? Will you wear a strapless bra or would you prefer a regular for comfort? I agree, black in the afternoon is a no-go. There are so many awesome colors and prints out there right now. As far as size, are you about a 2 or 4 (for the tatas)?