Seconded on everything people have said about lawyers, and documentation. I would also say that an agreement sounds great right now, but getting to court sooner is better than later. Even with documentation, and depending on the family laws of the state you're in, all that documentation can be dismissed. In my experience unless you have two people who get along as genuine friends, there will be an attempted fucking over somewhere down the line if you don't have an established court order. Also all things being equal, things do tend to bounce the females way. So I must reiterate lawyers are your friend.
I wish there was a way to get all of the TiBettes together to go see this in the same theater. It would be THE BEST THING to have ever happened to me.
I feel like this movie is going to be amazing simply because Channing Tatum used to be a male stripper and this is his role of a lifetime.
I'm down... provided y'all come up to Canada. Funny, the boyfriend doesn't want to see this with me. Prude.
A friend and I were discussing this. I theorized that any guy that takes a girl on a date to see Magic Mike will get laid afterward with 100% success, the only downside is in fact having to watch Magic Mike in it's entirety. Ladies, care to chime in?
He'll probably get laid solely based on that she was just watching hot guys dance around naked for 1.5 hours or whatever. Not because she thinks he's a sweetheart for taking her.
And this is why women never understand the dynamic of the Titty Bar. You realize your husband/bf has a WAY better chance of picking up a woman in a sports bar than he does in a strip club, right? Unless he's got a Hefty bag full of cash and/or cocaine. Then all bets are off.
I plan on standing outside in nice clothes with a bottle of wine, a picnic basket, and flowers. One girl is going to take me up on it.
So, I also got engaged about three weeks ago (Congrats Shimmered!), and I figured it probably would be a good idea to ask you girls for any advice you may have for the guy during this whole adventure. Since she is fairly traditional and we both have big families (hers being Catholic), we are doing the standard ~200+ guest wedding+reception. I don't expect her to be anywhere close to a 'bridezilla', but she does have a lot of pretty specific ideas on what she wants, and I think her mom is going more wedding crazy than she is. We haven't set a date yet, but we are looking at around next May, so I have to survive the craziness until then and any pointers would be nice. Also, because I know you girls love this kind of shit: Spoiler Here is where I asked, got down on one knee and everything: And the ring:
Alternative theory: they could watch the movie, wonder why their date is shaped like a bowling ball, and ditch him in disgust.
First of all, congrats, dude. Second of all, as a guy who has been engaged for about a month, I may be able to help a little. The best thing I can say is for you to (a) roll with the punches, and (b) be honest about what you like and don't like (but within reason). My fiance is the opposite of a difficult bride, but she gets overwhelmed in situations when there are a ton of choices (like, say, everything involved in planning a wedding). So if your girl is anything like that, just try and help to break things down into smaller projects. Get a venue first and set a date, then decide on a photographer or DJ, then color schemes, etc. The whole thing can look really daunting as a whole, but broken up into pieces, it's not nearly as bad. Regarding honesty, unless you really have a strong opinion about what you want to wear at your wedding, shut your mouth. There's a really good chance she's not going to put you in a clown costume, so let her come up with the color scheme, clothing, etc. You'll be in a suit--no one will care about the suit because they'll be looking at her dress. Same goes for decorations, centerpieces, etc. If she comes to you and wants your opinion, chime in, but let her roll with it if she isn't asking. You're marrying her, so you probably feel like she has decent taste. What you should be very honest about is budgeting. Establish a budget right off the bat and use that as a gauge for what type of venues you can even go look at. The night I proposed, she was already looking at venues and I shut her computer screen and told her not to look at another one until we talked money. We're at the end of our venue search, and things have been really easy because we both knew from the get-go that there were certain places we couldn't afford, so we didn't even bother looking at them. I really can't stress this enough. Other than that, you'll probably be helping with the invitations in some way and tasting food/cake, but I haven't gotten to those parts yet. I hope everything goes smoothly for you guys.
Sounds like we are in the same boat for the most part. My Fiancee is pretty easy going 95% of the time, but between all the shit we have to plan and her mom being more wedding crazy right now than she is, I imagine she'll get a little overwhelmed at times. My plan is just to help her not go crazy. We are lucky enough that her parents are pretty well off and have agreed to pretty much pay for everything except the flowers and the photographer. Her aunt is dying to do the flowers for us, and one of my good friends from high school is a damn good photographer and has tentatively agreed to do it for us, provided he doesn't have something else interfere since it's just a hobby for him. The funny thing about us is that I proposed while we were in the Dominican Republic, so for the first 3-4 days the best she could do was a single facebook post to let everyone know. Of course, within 12 hours of having returned to the states, she had at least 1 thick book and 3-4 wedding magazines. So far the only things I've brought up that I really want is a live band at the reception, and doing this for a wedding party picture: Spoiler Her gay brother gets the Aquaman shirt.