The TiBette Thread

Is anyone else's period getting worse as they get older like mine is? I swear, I turned 30 and while it's still regular, it's heavier and I've started spotting during ovulation. I'm ready for a hysterectomy - twenty years of this bullshit is enough.

 

Word. Mine is the worst, really really bad, like makes me dehydrated and anemic I lose so much blood, bad. For days after my period, I get lightheaded and see grey any time I stand up from sitting. I lose a solid week of running training every month, and have started using incontinence products. I have multiple, huge fibroids, so I'm also pretty much at the point of just needing to schedule a hysterectomy.

Sorry, tmi?

 

Question to all the ladies that were inspired by the shaving thread we had a while ago: for those of you that decided to check out DE shaving, what have you learned? My GF has expressed interest, and I'm sure the same process and products that I use on my manly mane won't work on her unmentionables.

 

God, I am in dire need of some new fashion bloggers to follow. I am fed up with twee Mormon bullshit and pregnant-lady style options.

Any suggestions?








(The first person to recommend The Daybook will get a red dot. Not even kidding.)

 

I read Keiko Lynn, Brooklyn Blonde and Eat, Sleep, Wear on a pretty regular basis. Also Sea of Shoes (she's a little out there for my tastes, but fun to look at nevertheless).

 

Yes. Yes indeed and I was just bitching about this yesterday. I want to put my uterus on hold until The Guy confirms his interest or disinterest in having children. This shit is ridiculous. Heavier, longer, like clockwork, but awful.

 

Not sure if The Sartorialist counts, but I like the site. Basically, I think the story is he's a fashion photographer that also takes snapshots of real folks he sees during his travels.

<a class="postlink" href="http://www.thesartorialist.com/" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false;">http://www.thesartorialist.com/</a>

 

Does anyone know if a good oil control moisturizer? The one I have been using for years has been discontinued and if I use a regular moisturizer I am shiny and gross by noon.

 

I don't know about a moisturizer but I adore Urban Decay's De-Slick (<a class="postlink" href="http://www.sephora.com/de-slick-oil-control-makeup-setting-spray-P277222" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false;">http://www.sephora.com/de-slick-oil-con ... ay-P277222</a>) for keeping my combination-oily skin under control in a super humid climate. It's like the All Nighter spray shimmered was talking about but specifically for oily skin types. I spritz 2-3 sprays over my MAC Studio Sculpt and Mineralize Skin Finish Natural and it leaves my face perfect all day.

 

I'm in an awkward position, and not quite sure what to do about. My ex boyfriend is getting married in two weeks, and since we've remained friends over the last decade and his fiancee works for my mother, I'm invited to the wedding. This is fine and dandy, and will be something of a high school reunion for me. However, I take issue with the bachelorette party plans.

Firstly, a lingerie shower? I like this girl, but she's marrying the guy I lost my virginity to, and I'm supposed to buy her honeymoon underwear in addition to the $100 kitchen appliance they're getting as a wedding gift? Also, I think at 25, a girl should have enough lingerie that every female invited shouldn't be expected to buy her more. Secondly, what is the deal with bachelorette parties? On top of the $150+ I'm already supposed to be spending on various gifts, I'm now being asked to drop another $40 or more on my share of a VIP table at some club. We're looking at $200+ at this point! As a grad student, I make about three times that in a month. This is ridiculous.

So I have two options at this point: break the (already cash-poor) bank for a couple I've seen twice since their engagement over a year ago, or excuse myself with a legitimate but last minute excuse (my grandmother is now on an oxygen tank full time due to her COPD and may not make it to Christmas, and I was just informed of it yesterday; family guilt may be good for something). I know we've discussed wedding attendance protocol, but what is the protocol for wedding-related shenanigans such as this?

 

I had to bail on a groomsman position, because I guy I was close with, a college roommate, had a wedding out of town. It would have cost me 700+ and I just had to tell him I couldn't afford to do it, given I was unemployed at the time. He understood. No idea what it'll be like for you.

 

Yes, definitely. "I just can't afford it right now. Have a great time, and I'll see you at the wedding!" is a perfectly legitimate reason not to attend. If you, like me, have an expensive bachelorette party, you have to accept that not everyone can afford it. If she gets all butthurt, she wasn't worth your $200 anyway.

Oh, and don't feel the need to go for the big wedding gift either. As long as it's off her registry (please say she put some less expensive stuff on her registry? please? I registered at C&B and Williams Sonoma and had many sub-$50 items let alone sub-$25), she should be happy. And if she's not, again, fuck 'er.

 

I think a polite decline is all that is required. No excuses, no explanations. You already mentioned that you are a friend of the groom, not the bride so it shouldnt be that surprising that you aren't attending the periphery wedding related events. Just a simple "sorry, can't make it" should suffice.

 

Clarification: I already agreed to go, and then the maid of honor texted me today with all these additional (and expensive) details. I was initially under the impression that this was a standard bachelorette party, not a combined lingerie shower/club-hopping affair. So declining at this point means reneging on my previous agreement to attend, and if the past is any indication, the bride will definitely ask me why I'm not coming (she asked my mom at work why she and my dad won't be attending the wedding).

As this is a violation of Southern manners, I don't know what the best explanation is, since the truth is that I don't know these girls (the maid of honor didn't remember who I was, even though we've met and hung out a couple dozen times) and I can't distract myself with a fun environment. And I'm broke. Holy hell, am I broke.

 

I am guessing that saying that you can't imagine sitting there watching the bride unwrap her crotchless panties and pleather corsets without imagining her fiancée ripping them off your body with his teeth would also violate southern manners?

 

Thankfully, I'm not attracted to that ex, but there's just something so creepy crawly about buying his soon-to-be wifey anything sexual in nature. We weren't on that level when they first started dating and she drunkenly asked me about all the details of my relationship with him, and we're not there now.

 

I still say honesty is the best policy. Deliver with wide eyes and in a very contrite tone, "OMG I feel so terrible to back out now, and the party sounds super fun, but I just can't afford it with all the fun extras you guys have planned." Make it a tale of your woe, and not a tale of her excess. Go into detail of your broke-itude if you have to. Anyone who could look you in the face and be outraged doesn't deserve your wedding gift!

 

Girly Rave: I have been especially good at shopping in the past day. I'm part of DSW's loyalty program, and they sent me a coupon saying "Hey,you haven't been here in a while. Here's $20 off your next purchase." So I got some sweet new shoes for Fall that I'm really excited about. I may break them in sooner that that if they don't end up being too hot to wear. Then, I went to renew a subscription for a magazine from my favorite magazine website, and I ended up getting 4 subscriptions for less than $20. One of those is for a weekly magazine, too. I don't know if anyone's as obsessed with magazines as I am (that now brings me up to NINE subscriptions, as well as 1 bimonthly one that I buy every issue of but don't subscribe to for various reasons), but this is a really good site for subscriptions. They have a decent selection of $5 and $8 subscriptions and a lot of other more expensive ones.