I've had a lot of volleyball chicks from the colleges around town lately. Shit gets rough at times. Some of the injured crossfit chicks are just amazing.
So, I have a situation at work that I need some advice on. There's this guy. He's effectively my equal, in that he is about the same age and has about the same experience as me, and is not normally in a position that is superior to me. He is not in any capacity a medical professional (whereas the department head is a physician, and we have nurses in working in various positions). Due to the fact that the boss is gone for a little while, he is the acting department head. It has gone to his head in a big way. His behaviour is not just distasteful or disagreeable (though I find it distasteful and disagree with it), it is simply beyond the pale of acceptability. Today, it's culminated in him chewing out a coworker in the department (very loudly, disrespectfully, and audible to her subordinates), where the coworker would otherwise be on an equal footing with him status-wise. He's a little fucking bully and the people with the power to discipline him don't visit our work area, so they don't know it's going on. I want to take this up to higher to let them know that this sort of stuff is going on. But at the same time, I don't want to be unwittingly sticking my neck out onto a chopping block. Has anyone been here before? Any advice to offer?
Tell him you two are going to fight in the parking lot at lunch. Loser has to quit, also if someone doesn't show up then they must quit. Solves everything perfectly.
Is there any way for you record future occurrences of the behavior, so it doesn't look petty? Abusive behavior should never go unspoken for.
Speaking of medical workers being attracted to patients and stupid stories about myself that I shouldn't share and don't had any real purpose... When I was a teenager I started seeing a dermatologist for my acne. This including getting blasted with liquid nitrogen to kill it off. I'm in the room waiting for that when a smoking hot nurse comes in and tells me to take off my shirt. I'm of course a little shy and embarrassed as a fat fourteen year old but I complied. She said, "Hmmmm not bad at all. I was elated. Hell eah not bad at all. It took me a good 5-6 years before I suddenly realized she was just taking about my acne not making my wispy haired chest a volcanic Martian landscape.
Perhaps the employee who he had the altercation with should bring it up to next level person in charge.
Unfortunately, the person in question is timid and gets flustered easily, which is unfortunate. She burst out crying, and I talked to her about it afterwards and she was extremely embarrassed about the way she reacted (again, this was done in earshot of her subordinates). But that's how bullies work, they make their victims ashamed of being bullied, when they should really be ashamed of themselves. Thing is, it's not just her that has been on the receiving end of his unacceptable behaviour. He's said a few things to me that I didn't like, and I corrected him on it, and then I had to correct him when he did it again... and then had to correct him again. Today was just the worst of it, and I'm also not the only person who wants to go up and let his supervisors know what's going on.
It's been my experience that folks like this almost always get what's coming to them - i.e. eventually this behavior WILL be noticed by higher ups. You keep doing the right thing the right way. As was pointed out, though, if there's actual abuse going on, and not just distasteful, I think you're obligated to report that. (Because the coworker that got chewed might look at you as complicit, if you're ahead of that coworker.) Do you have any sort of HR protocol? Is there another coworker you could confide in that could help?
Go to the higher ups asking for advice. Be open about a situation that made you uncomfortable and ask them what would be the most appropriate way to deal with it according to them. ''It might not be my responsibility, but I don't feel allowing a situation like this to happen without doing anything is fair. What do you suggest I do?''. People love being asked for advice, and you shouldn't get any flak from it since it's an honest, legitimate question you have.
Interesting, my experience has been the opposite. My wife has this situation at her work right now, her supervisor is brutal, though it's not directed at her. The director has been there for three years, and it keeps going on, despite the fact that everyone knows about it. I also have personally experienced such behavior, and typically nothing is done. My advice? If you like your job, or need it, keep your head down, and stay out of it. If it goes over the line into physical abuse, then that's a different matter. Unfortunately, it is a hallmark of our difficult economic times that 'complainers' are highly expendable. I'm not saying it's right, it clearly is not, but this is your livelihood we're talking about. Believe me, I'd love to live in a world where people reap what they sow, but I just don't live in that one.
What if it's bad in the sense that his testicles are swollen and inflamed and no bodily fluid should ever be that colour, let alone fluid from his urethra?
I'm about to go to L.A. I know how many of you people love L.A. I'm going to enjoy coming back, telling about the great time I had, celebrities I met, and the wonderful food I ate. Peace out bitches.
So you're going to a town where everyone wants to be a celebrity. So you'll likely meet someone who was that guy from that show in the 80s, the good food will be in-n-out or some overpriced overrated sushi, and the great time you're going to have won't happen because people in LA pretty universally suck. Chicago and LA are opposites, if you like Chicago you won't like LA.
Although it sucks to sit back and do nothing and as much as you want to do the right thing I agree with this. I also think that if it's that bad he'll get his at some point. You know how in football games it's always the second guy that gets the flag thrown for unsportsmanlike conduct and never the first punkass that threw the first wack? Same rings true here. So rather that act on feelings and speculate the outcome, better (especially now with the job market what it is) to just document what you can so that when it does hit the fan you can offer it up at that time.