It's meant so that the wives who are stay at home moms and dependent on their spouses during the marriage have the opportunity to 'get on their feet'. It's not supposed to be long term, or anything like that.
I think it is now called "spousal support" and can really go either way. I have female friends who are the breadwinners in the relationships. Isn't it also used for the spouse that works while the other attends school or whatever it is they need to do to build their career?
As a kid of a divorced couple I will respond. There have been a few comments especially I want to respond to.
Yeah I get that if you stay home with the kids and need some help, that's understandable. Now my buddy pays 450 a month for child support and another 750 a month for a house that isn't his and that he doesn't live in anymore. Divorce sucks all the way around but it's hard not to get pissed when you have friends that have to live with there parents because they can't afford 2 mortgage payments.
Yeah. The courts place a monetary value on that to balance it out. As a 2x ex-wife, I can honestly say - I never wanted anything from either of my ex-husbands but OUT. I wanted out and away. I didn't want anything they had. Buy outs of house/cars/whatever meant spending entirely too long dealing with them, and I wasn't willing to do that. It's over when it's over, and when it was done - neither of them had anything I couldn't leave. My boys' dad pays child support - but that's to be expected and it isn't, frankly, all that much. The 'spousal support/alimony' part of divorce isn't hard. It's money and you can always figure out a way to leave it behind or earn more or make it work. Co-parenting? jeeeeeezus that shit is hard.
Let this be a lesson to you single people. Don't marry poor folk, those without a career or asperations for one, lazy people or anyone that has desire to be a stay at home parent. They all feel entitled, but provide no actual value. And if they decide they don't love you anymore your life will be over for the next 10+ years.
I like Prince and respect his insane talent. I don't enjoy just about anything he's done. I mean his old stuff is kind of dated in the 80's sound, a sound that never became timeless. Ill also say a lot of y'all are dating yourselves here.
Eh. The first couple of years it's rough...because the hurt from the divorce is raw. Then the next three or four aren't so bad. Generally, when a step parent is added to the mix (and I say this from both sides of the coin) things get crazy. The 'Kids Hurt Too' class is required in some counties here, or a variation of some kind, and it's a great class for trying to teach co-parenting steps. I haven't ever seen classes dedicated specifically to step-parenting and not fucking that up.
At least I'm dating someone I love. A friend texted me this today: It's funny...because they're cats.
Where credit is due, Pet Sounds might just be the greatest album ever recorded. And nobody has Mike Love's voice.
Depending on the state, it can be used to "acclimate" the non-breadwinner to their new lifestyle. I would never deny my kids, but I know my ex is absolutely retarded with finances. Im going to have to bail her out eventually for the kids' sake. Unfortunately, child support isnt audited.
If both parties made a similar income during the marriage, would their be any alimony? The whole concept is so screwy to me. Obviously the kids need to be taken care of, but why should one side get money just for having married someone? I could knock someone up that I wasn't married to and have no legal obligation to give her anything more than child support.
It's supposed to protect stay at home mothers. But if she's got a full time job, it's a fairly easy way to extend your lifestyle for a 1/3 of the years married.