I'm guessing she just asked his mom's opinion on how he would feel about being the proposee, not actually asked her permission. Or maybe he's a momma's boy and she really does have to ask permission or his mother will put her in the basement along with the other girlfriends who got out of hand.
I don't see the harm in a woman proposing. If we're becoming all about equality and stuff these days, I don't see why the rules for marriage can't be re-written. Hey, Nom! I think I have a premise for the next thread to end in a train wreck.
How often do you peg him? This is an important factoid to factor in while considering the subject of female proposal.
I guess so, I personally would be caught off guard, but how would it work? You propose and then he has to go buy you a ring?
I don't see the difference in who proposes, some guys probably will feel de-masculated by it. Usually the guy wants to do it because 80% of the time it's the guy who's holding out on getting engaged and he wants to be NOT engaged as long as possible. Meh, let the guy do it. That way he'll spell your name in Christmas lights or drag you onto a pro basketball court or something else you can throw on YouTube. Plus, the guy has to buy the ring so she can go to all her friends, hold up her big, shiny "Fuck Ya'll" to the girls and then they can all compare the size of their diamonds to see who's fiancé loves them the most. Although they will never admit it in a million years, all women find out that way and keep it locked up inside them forever.
Interesting time for this topic, as I was at a jeweler looking at rings this morning. No idea what Im doing or what to look for. I guess it's clarity vs color vs size or something? I was going to budget around $4K for one and propose sometime in the fall. Anyone have any advice for trying to find a decent one?
I can't tell you jewelry store strategies, those annoying silhouette quartet commercials from the 90's said "3 months salary", but the one I bought my wife was less than that because I knew ahead of time my wife hated gaudy jewelry. She would not go for a Hope Diamond on her finger for life. Just make sure however much you spend you get the look that you know she'll like. Some stones I see on women's fingers...Christ. Granted, they're big, incredible stones and probably cost a lot but that is a LOT money to go into something so tiny. Or pawn shops. They probably have cheap engagement ring sophomores that still look great, only thrown against a wall at ex once.
color, cut, clarity, carat, and I think there's one more c to take in to account. As far as proposing to him goes, think about this; when you get the inevitable "So how did he propose?" 150 times, are you prepared to deal with the bashful look on his face? Will he be prepared to take massive amounts of shit from his guy friends? If that stuff doesn't matter so long as you get married...
Tangentially related story. I paid something like 20 pounds to visit The Tower of London last month which includes an exhibit of The Crown Jewels. So you wait in line like an hour and then you get to feast your eyes on crowns, sceptres, swords, spoons, maces, etc. This even includes the Koh-i-Noor Diamond which means Mountain of Light and is 105.6 metric carats. You are basically looking at all this shit that the monarchy uses to show off their wealth and power. Not my thing, but whatever. And then at the end of the tour of viewing the most insane display of wealth you are greeted by this: A fucking donation box. Fucking ridiculous.
Notice its full of fucking American dollars. Depressing. We WOULD give the royal family money because they clearly need it.
Today, Li'l Bandit and I were driving home, when I noticed flashing lights behind me. "Oh shit," I thought. It was a constable, but he passed by me, and blasted through a red light! "I wonder where he's going in such a hurry," I said to Li'l Bandit. "By the looks of it, a gay night-club," he said! We both started laughing. "You know, because of all the flashing lights!" he added. My boy, natural jokester.
Already making fun of cops, wonder how that happened? Just binged through the latest breaking bad season for the second time, amazing TV.
When it comes to the size of the ring take a good look at the jewelry she already owns. If she wears big showy stuff, go as big as you're willing, but if she's a minimalist like me, anything more than 0.75 ct feels tacky.
I think the most important thing to know is whether she is the type of person that is picky about rings and would want a specific type (in which case there would have to be a discussion either with her or someone who knows her ring preference), or if she doesn't care and just wants to be surprised.
She wanted a carat, but that was the only prerequisite I got. She'll be surprised no matter what though. She's not hard to please. Spoiler
Actually I am shocked you bothered at all with a ring. Anyone ever been in West Virginia? I'm here for the next two weeks with fuckall to do and am starting to get bored. Fortunately I'm in Morgantown so its not so bad.