I forget sometimes that not everyone lives within an hour or so from their family. Makes complete sense to avoid it if you can't be there to supervise. I had a couple of buddies and a trailer drive a few miles to the house and load up the things we could sell for more and let the estate people handle the old furniture and random things people accumulate living in a house for decades.
The estate sale we had was worthless at my grandparents. I don’t think we grossed a thousand bucks. Lady who ran it wasn’t bad but it was more hassle than it was ultimately worth. I think my aunt made more money listing random furniture on Facebook marketplace but it was too much hassle for her to drive and show it. Outside of a handful of personal items everything was old junk and a lot of it. It would have just been quicker to rent a dumpster. She did donate a London Fog jacket I wanted. The guns and some paintings were the only thing of value and we just divided those up personally though my aunt claimed all the most expensive ones herself because she was the executor.
We've got a lot of "activists" going on about how "education is not tourism" because they can't roll in to Japan to do their year abroad or some shit. Lots of them are saying they're "stranded" as if missing your year abroad is the same as being stuck in a foreign country with no way of getting home. Another big portion of them are mad because they "can't" see their (usually) girlfriend or boyfriends. Of course, Taro and Hanako aren't rushing out to wherever to see their "beloved" that they miss just so darn much. Probably just worried that Hanako has a job at the local girls bar and takes Takeshi over to the love hotel after he drops a grand. Japan is taking it extra slow, and it's really worked. Tokyo has days with less than 7 new cases, in one of the most densely populated cities, and is heavily reliant on public transit. Quarantine is 3 days now with a negative test, and they're running things are administrative capacity.
Of course there’s a goddamn earthquake going on right now. 3.5 was the big one (small by most standards), now just aftershocks. But we’re on the 6th floor of a hotel on rollers, so it’s not great. like I just wanna go a month without nature fucking with me
In this season of giving thanks I turn to my career. I work for a consultancy as a technical manager. I make pretty decent money. The client that I’m staffed to is attempting to poach me. The company I work for must have got wind of this because shortly before I met with HR about the new job I was given a 10% pay raise out of the blue. And now comes a predicament. The company I work for feels like family. But they can’t offer me the compensation my client can. I do a lot for the company. I’m a part of it and not just a cog in the machine. However my client is a very large company with lots of room to move up. I would just be a cog in the machine. But a cog making significantly more money. And stock options. No decision is bad here for me. And that makes this decision much harder. Also for whatever reason I fear hurting the company I currently work for. Which is a silly fear. Anyone ever dealt with a similar issue?
Yeah, and unfortunately it's pretty hard to get or give any useful advice because the factors involved are so personal - it's not like there's a wrong answer. I'm probably ~25-35% underpaid in straight salary at my existing job, and would likely get equity on top of that if I switched industries. On the other hand, I like the people I work with, I'm afforded a ridiculous amount of flexibility with a boss who trusts me to set my own priorities, I'm 100% remote with no obligation to visit an office, I rarely work a minute over 40 hours, and I'm in an industry that helps people. If I got involved in a company that offers equity, maybe I'd retire 5 years earlier, and it would certainly unlock some promotional opportunities. But it's almost certain that my skillset would be more stressful, more hours, and less flexibility at a high paying tech company, and I'm not sure how much I want to keep climbing the ladder. So... is it worth it? Who knows? The biggest things I think about are whether a new situation will have a negative impact on time or stress (longer commute, more hours in the office, shitty culture, etc.), and what the money buys me. Someone who is just getting by and looking at having another kid is going to put a premium on that increased paycheck, whereas a "DINK" couple with a two six-figure jobs isn't going to be that much better off with a bigger check. But definitely don't worry about your old company; give them notice, help them with the transition, and thank them for being a great company to work for.
I'll echo what Binary said. I've switched jobs thinking higher salary was going to make up for the differences in what my position afforded me in things which didn't include salary. 10 minute drive vs 30 minute drive, not too bad. Job flexibility to do what I needed to do to complete my work vs working within someone else's framework, not great. Working in a company which was 3 or 4 years ahead of the company offering me more money, this was the killer. Ever work somewhere and then move to a similar job, but the company you moved to is trying to figure out how to grow but is making the same mistakes your former company made? On top of that, because you aren't high enough up in the company and brand new, they will never listen to your input and they keep making bad decisions you've already seen not work? That sort of thing, which you can't put a money value on, can really be soul crushing and make going to work very unpleasant. On the flip side, as I've told anyone who has ever come to me putting in their 2 weeks notice because they are moving to a higher paying, better job. Good for you! Get the money while you can. Don't worry about us, you look out for yourself.
Good managing there. I'm going through similar shit here at work, albeit because I'm forming a new team, people are following me from other positions. The reactions of their current managers are... interesting. Some are completely supportive, "what can I do to help?", others have their heads up their asses and are fighting it tooth and nail. SO many people take this shit way too personally. It's just a job.
You’re company might feel like family, but they’re not and they’ll cut you loose the second it makes financial sense to do so. The others gave you good advice. Consider it in terms of a business/work-life decision and nothing else.
If you got run over by a bus your current company won't close down, if you're lucky some of your closer associates may even visit you in hospital. I worked as a contractor for the major part of my working life and my observations were that loyalty is inversely proportional to the size of the company and nobody will notice you've gone after a day or so. I always went to my set of old fashioned scales with money on one side and bullshit on the other. Just keep it balanced but remember it does have a maximum load, if the money has to be so much to balance out the bullshit the scales are likely to break. Yes you need a certain amount of money to live (and that changes as you go through life) but you'll have a more rewarding life if you can prioritize wants and needs. I've decided I need a life.
100%. You should NEVER be free of skepticism while at your job unless you are the founder. That’s why I won’t work in automotive companies anymore, it’s too much up and down, tomorrow you could be laid off/bankrupt.
Others have covered most it, so all I will add is that convert the extra salary into something tangible and then ask yourself again. Instead of saying "I'll make $X/year more" say "I can afford that ski condo" or "we can go to Europe" or whatever it is you'd spend the money on. Then weigh that against the change in work environment.
Happy Thanksgiving, idiots! I hope everyone has safe travels, healthy holidays and joyous fellowship with family.
I made a joke about farting in my nephew’s humidifier so he’d wake up with pink eye. My wife was horrified. I might be that uncle.