Yeah, I haven't had a full night's sleep in 5 years. Sleep train the kid. So many parents let their kids sleep in their bed. Absolute lunacy.
thing is, my rib cage flares at the bottom (not as dramatic as in the picture, but you get the point). So no matter what I do, it'll always look like I have a belly. Just got back from the expo and I am way more confident. There were people twice my size getting their bibs for the marathon. Shirt sizes went up to 4XL... because San Antonio, amirite?
Our son was impossible. We tried everything. I tried letting him cry it out, sleep in our bed. Didn't matter what the fuck we did he didnt sleep for more then 2 hours. Then one night when my wife was working i just had enough was so tired i put him to sleep in his crib let him cry and fell asleep. If we had him first i don't think i would of had a 2nd kid.
To be fair, I’m turning 40 in three months. My wife and I were trying while the board was talking about how awful it is to have kids in your late 30’s. So I got that going for me…which is nice.
@Crown Royal might be the bomb at Halloween decorations. But I'm the bomb at decorating the Parvo transport truck for the Christmas parade.
Eh, I think there are pros and cons to both. If you have them later, you get to do all the usual partying, travel etc when you're young. If you have them earlier, you're an empty nester earlier and then you can travel with a bigger wallet. My SIL was a later baby and she had her first in her later 30's so now her kids grandparents are in their mid 70's. I think that kinda sucks. The baby is only going to have a shorter time to spend with them before they pass. They already have some physical ailments setting in so they're never going to be able to take her to Disney, the park, fair etc. My wife had her first fairly young by todays standards and her kid just had their first in their mid 20's so we're grandparents in our mid 40's which I think is awesome. I'll have the energy to play with him for many years to come. The people I feel "sorry" for, are the people that have a child young, life goes by, the kid is about to move out and then they get that "oopsie" baby in their 40's and start the whole process over again.
Our daughter's friend is an "oopsie." She's 5, and has two older siblings. One is 18, the other is 16. Parents are in their mid-40s. My urologist took an immersion blender to my scrotum. If there's an oopsie in this house, it's an immaculate conception, or my wife being a skank.
I was 42 when my 1st was born and 45 for the 2nd. Our oldest was extremely difficult to get to go to sleep. With rare exceptions, one of us still has to lay down with him in order for him to go out. As an infant, I'd have to walk carrying him for 20min or more to get him down for a nap. Car rides only put him out after over an hour of driving. Our 2nd is usually easier, but as I type this, I can hear him crying because he's likely over tired tonight. My wife & I like the idea of a 3rd, but we need to sleep eventually and I don't want to be the guy in his 70s at his kid's high school graduation.
This is my only regret at having my kids later. My mom passed 2yrs before my oldest was born and dad passed 19 days after my oldest was born. To this day, I still have moments of sadness when I think about how much my parents wanted to be grandparents. My MIL died a month before our 2nd was born and while my FIL is in ok health, the kids quickly wear him out.
That was my middle brother and his wife, although the boy may not have been as much of an “oops” as they let on. Whatever the case, when I heard the news I called the urologist and made an appointment to get snipped right away. Fuck all that. It’s been 20 years so I don’t remember the exact timeline, but we had some issues with our older son going to sleep. Then we got one of these for the crib: And that thing was worth its weight in gold. We ended up buying them as baby shower gifts for others for a couple years after.
We started cosleeping at 4 1/2 months because I was so sleep deprived I couldn’t drive to work (thanks 4 month sleep regression). We still haven’t managed to fully evict him and he’s 2 1/2. He just stumbles in like a drunk person in the middle of the night and burrows into bed. It’s kind of cute but I wouldn’t recommend it. We’re trying for #2 because we’re gluttons for punishment, but Im pissed about how careful I was to NOT get pregnant for ages and how hard it is to actually get pregnant now that I want to.
I hear ya. I'm not faulting anyone for doing it, I'm just glad I didn't. Every other parent J know does some form of cosleeping.
Well guys, I’m exhausted. We finally took the nurses up on the offer to take him out of the room and let us get a few hours of sleep, because we couldn’t stop waking up at any tiny sound.
The advice is always sleep when the baby sleeps. We let the nurse take the baby overnight one time for feedings since I was so exhausted and recovering from complications in the hospital. When we got home, I think I finally collapsed asleep on day four. I just could not stop looking at the baby. They make a lot of weird sounds. Eventually you'll give in to exhaustion and start sleeping. I think it's pretty natural.
Yesterday one of the car mechanics fixed a bumper with some coloured zip ties. We have 6 colours(red/green/blue/purple/yellow/orange) for colour coding taking stuff apart. Everything he is white(pickups), grey/industrial yellow(reach stackers) white/industrial yellow(tractors). So everything is pretty bland, so he wanted to add some colour, it was actually pretty nice to have some colour. Well he came in this morning and someone had cut the coloured zip ties off and put black ones in. FFS guys, just because something had a rainbow on it, you had to remove it? Well guess what mother fuckers, everything is going to become rainbow now.
What a difference 20 years makes. I don’t know anyone who co-slept with their young kids. I had my first and only in my late 30s. I would like to be around to enjoy grandkids but who the hell knows.
I just straight-up refused to allow kids in my bed. My BIL has his three kids crawling into bed with him every night. It's to the point where he has to sleep on the couch to carve out some room for himself. Fuck that.
Kid has been in the bed since the day he was born. Only started consistently being in his own bed about 2 years ago. Don't recommend.