Your Hurdle / JUICE MADE A TYPO LETS MAKE FUN OF HIM

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Focus

A bad car accident I was in lead to years of what I was told was called "survivor's guilt" I was sitting in the back seat of a car that went sideways into a tree, killing the girl who just happened to be out with me that night (sitting next to me) and the driver's best friend. It destroyed the entire narrative of my personality, turning me into a socially insane person for years. You can't really "get over" something sudden like that. I relive it constantly to this day, how horrifying and gruesome it was can't be unseen. I got past it simply by eventually accepting none of it was my fault, and from reassurance from family and friends of that truth.

Also, stop trying to make Juice FLIP out.

 

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Once again, the focus of the thread has been put on the back burner.

 

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Sorry Juice, omelette you finish.

 

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We're gonna need to you to stay on focus.

 

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So to unscramble this thread a bit, my hurdle. I'm ADHD, genuinely and not the funny ha ha I sometimes get sidetracked thing or the you're in the middle of doing someone then you see a squirrel. More like the social life is more difficult, school seems impossible at times, constantly stressed out because I keep forgetting shit kind.

I'm always putting out fires in my life because I'm inattentive, whether its me forgetting about a class project until the last second, forgetting about a significant bill to the point where they almost threaten to stop my health insurance (that was fun last week), or just my social life in general. I'm always known to say the most random things. Work is always going to be difficult for me because for me to sit an in office all day is just dam near impossible for me, and not dam near impossible in the way that we all get bored and hate work, but more in the way I end up pissing other people off and get fired because of my inattentive work habits sort of way. I have an extremely hard time sitting at a desk for ~40 hours a week, I always end up getting bored and anxious. It seems like I can't plan ahead or do things ahead of time ever. I need my ass to be on the fire to get shit done. For me to complete a class paper the week before its due is never going to happen.

So yea, I'm sure I'll get ripped on for this little comment, but real ADHD is hard to overcome, its an everyday thing and...yea, go Kings!

 

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That would be quite a hurdle to overcome...

 

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I've done a few things in my life that could theoretically impress other people. High standardized test scores, went to the #1 undergrad in the country, went to a top 10 business school for my MBA, etc. To be honest with you, those things were cake. I have intellectual horsepower and a supportive family, and I naturally read fast. Getting all my work done at top tier quality didn't require extra effort.

So what's my hurdle? Physical and mental toughness. As described above, I haven't really had to fight for the traditional indicators of success. Plus, I'm a girl and until I was 30 my only forms of exercise had been dance, yoga and the occasional bout of hanging out on the elliptical machine - think not skinny but not fat, and very little strength.

I grew up skiing and always wanted to "prove" I was a good skier. I lived too far from the mountains to ever be on a race team, and I have pretty much zero patience so I could never be an instructor (PS - getting qualified to teach skiing is no fucking joke, there is an official tiered system and testing into the higher levels is INSANE). That left ski patrolling, which you can do as a volunteer and only work weekends. But, of course, I was too afraid, and figured I wasn't strong enough.

My sister started patrolling as a volunteer when she was still in college. I was stupid jealous. She fought for it every step of the way and won the respect of both volunteer and professional patrollers at her mountain. 10 years later she is in charge of our candidate training program and widely considered one of the most knowledgable patrollers.

3 years ago she finally said to me: "If I can do it, you can do it. Get it together and go for it."

I did. It was tough. I had to overcome natural squeamishness to get my medical qualification (Outdoor Emergency Care, pretty much equivalent to EMT). I had to start working out, lifting weights, and running, in order to be strong enough to drive the sleds and haul shit all over the mountain (5'6" 140 lb. me can take a 250+ lb. guy down any slope on the mountain in a 50 lb. sled that has no brakes, thankyouverymuch). I had to ignore my natural cautiousness/lack of confidence in my skiing and hurl myself down every gnarly run to keep up with whoever I was following. I had to convince the boys' club* that I was going to stick around and put in the effort, which amounted to a lot of shutting up and listening, volunteering for the crappy tasks, showing up when no one else wanted to, and buying people beer. I had to keep going and believing in myself in the face of A LOT of criticism (nothing mean-spirited, but none of the guys who trained me believe in positive feedback).

It's not as publicly impressive as my various academic "accomplishments," but it's no bullshit when I say I'm prouder of having made the patrol than I am of anything else I've done in my life. It means I got tougher, physically and mentally. It also means I'm a fucking good skier - I was especially proud when several of the guys told me my skiing has improved drastically over the past 2 years.

*Please note this is literal: out of 40 volunteer patrollers at my mountain, 4 are women, including me. The guys have never criticized me based on my gender.

 

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This. I came to the realization that my inattentiveness might have caused my last job to pick me during a downsizing. I got the job I'm at now after e-papering the internet with my resume. As soon as my benefits kicked in, I went to the doctor and got on medication. I got a 10% raise during my review in January and am widely regarded as one of the best guys here. Last week, I got a promotion to a new position that will be coming with yet another raise and another step away from the mouthbreathers that use computers. Before, I was a lonely 24 year old virgin in a one bedroom apartment with depression settling in. Now, I have a wife, two dogs and a mortgage.

There are absolutely some times where I fall down the rabbit hole and end up wasting hours of my time. But then there are other days when I've not only crossed off everything I need to do off my list, but I've done it one after the other, without distractions ruining my day. Right now it's 35/65 goofing off/focused. I know it'll never be 0/100, but I know I have it in me to try.

 

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I managed to earn a Master's degree while suffering from generalized anxiety disorder. Basically, every assignment feels like the end of the world, but I've gotten pretty far despite having to spend two weeks psyching myself up to write 2 page reflection papers.

 

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Isn't that what it always boils down to anyway?

 

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Isn't it just like you to cook up more puns. Always poaching the low-hanging fruit.

Teflon.

 

I think we should just let him simmer in his own Juices for a while.

 

Stop it guys. You're just going to get him all steamed.

 

Be careful now, we don't want things to boil over.

 

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I for one am fed up.

 

This is a three page pun thread. I want everyone involved to shut down their computer, go sit in the corner, and think about what you've done.

 

Don't get all steamed now.